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11 Jan 2011, 9:49 am

So, as my previous thread stated, I have agoraphobia and I rarely leave my house. A person I used to be friends with before my agoraphobia developed Facebooked me today asking if I wanted to go to the library. I really enjoyed this person's company at one time so I don't want to say no and hurt her feelings but I..don't want to leave.

What should I say? =/ Should I try and go? What if I have a panic attack? (That's not even a question of "what if", I know I would. it's a question of what I do when I have it in public.)

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11 Jan 2011, 11:08 am

You knew her before your agoraphobia developed? Do you know why it developed?

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11 Jan 2011, 11:19 am

I think you should go, it might turn out to be a good day. It could even be the start to recovery, and I'm sure you should feel safe with your friend and they wouldn't let anything bad happen to you.
I have a different phobia, mine is illness and its gotten really bad with me and I hardly ever go out of the house because I get anxious about catching things or being in a situation I can't get out of, and I have panic attacks frequently. But I went out the other day with my friends and even though I had one short wobbly moment I ended up having a great day and I'm so glad I did get out of that house. And the day before that I met my friend and his girlfriend and even though I had an anxious moment (without them knowing) I managed to get through it and met a new person that I get on with.

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11 Jan 2011, 11:28 am

MidlifeAspie wrote:

You knew her before your agoraphobia developed? Do you know why it developed?

I did, and she doesn't know I have agoraphobia or Asperger's. I don't know why it started developing, I just started to get panicky everywhere. Like, at the beginning it was just at school. After a while it was everywhere.

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=3 I mean of course I want to go. I just don't want to have a panic attack in public. It makes me feel vulnerably and I hate that.

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11 Jan 2011, 12:47 pm

iwannabeadragon wrote:

MidlifeAspie wrote:

You knew her before your agoraphobia developed? Do you know why it developed?

MONKEY wrote:

=3 I mean of course I want to go. I just don't want to have a panic attack in public. It makes me feel vulnerably and I hate that.

I hate having a panic attack in public because of feeling lost and trapped, I don't like to be in a situation I can't control or get out of. I guess my responses to my fear or more flight than fight.
At the time I don't care about how I look though and I do all sorts of crazy s**t and say daft things. But I feel like a knob-end afterwards.

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11 Jan 2011, 1:04 pm

Invite her to your house instead?

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11 Jan 2011, 2:24 pm

MONKEY wrote:

iwannabeadragon wrote:

MidlifeAspie wrote:

You knew her before your agoraphobia developed? Do you know why it developed?

MONKEY wrote:

=3 I mean of course I want to go. I just don't want to have a panic attack in public. It makes me feel vulnerably and I hate that.

I hate having a panic attack in public because of feeling lost and trapped, I don't like to be in a situation I can't control or get out of. I guess my responses to my fear or more flight than fight.
At the time I don't care about how I look though and I do all sorts of crazy sh** and say daft things. But I feel like a knob-end afterwards.

Yeah, exactly. While I'm having the panic attack I wouldn't notice that people were even watching. But afterwards, I'd be.. embarrassed and wouldn't know what to say.

I guess I' gonna be going so I'll see how this goes. :3 I haven't been outside my backyard in months. :3

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11 Jan 2011, 4:59 pm

Hope it goes well. :thumleft:
Tell us how it went after you've been.

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12 Jan 2011, 3:19 am

I had a panic attack and started crying on the bus ride home but other then that it was okay.
i think i did that because I always think people are staring at me on he bus, ever if they're here.

i bought a hat with a raccoon face on it though. XD
my friend bought one with an owl face.

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12 Jan 2011, 11:47 am

Invite her over is a good thing to do.. and also a good chance to tell her about your problem so you can have someone that understands it.

Also, you can seek help for it from a psychologist/psychiatrist. Panic attacks caused by social anxiety are easily treated/controlled with minor medication...no different from someone that has to take blood pressure medicine. My sister had panic attacks and anxiety issues a few years back, she took the pills and after a couple of years the doctor 'weaned' her off them by giving her increasingly smaller doses until she was off it completely and the attacks didnt return nor did her anxiety.

I'd suggest you do this as soon as possible since you are 17 and university is around the corner.

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