How can you learn to do this?

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I don't understand really how to meaningfully communicate with proper NTs. Being an aspie myself i find it easier to talk to dyslexic people, ADHD people and non autistic people who show mild traits of aspergers.

My farther even though he is not on the spectrum shows traits of AS. It would be terrible if he was not around anymore becasue then i would be stuck with my mother and my brother who are really hard for me to connect with. To me certain non autistic people are an engima and really hard for me to figure out. you know the conformitist and go with the flow type of NTs.

One thing that really irriates me about some NTs is that they use body langauge all the time when it is not even neccesarry and when i don't pick up thier cues the conversation becomes really awkward and its fustrating for me trying to figure them out.

When I had a few glasses of wine with my mother though because i was more relaxed and slightly under the influence of alcohol i had a deeper meaningful conversation with then i ever would if i was sober. Weird?

Any tips on how i can try and make a better connection with NT's?

The way I have learned, was through simple observation, looking at people talking and the like.

the people you can connect with do this in a simpler manner, using what they have learned as well. You could compare this to speaking with an accent or speaking a language badly, using all the easy words.

However, to learn a language fully, it's best to stick with the native speakers so to say, this goes for body language as well. So I would say to stick around NTs more and observe them and what they do while talking to you.

The second inhibitor has, in my case been how I was raised. Coming from fairly strict parents, they placed barriers that I took quite literally when I was a child and a teen. However, later on, I found out that many of these "rules" are not set in stone, they're guidelines on what to look out for, what to be careful of and how to interact with the world. When you ingest alcohol, you lose some of those inhibitions that were given to you when your parents raised you. Try to think about what you are doing while slightly drunk other than talking and look back on the rules your parents set in place when you were a child. It could be one of them that is inhibiting you when you talk to NTs.

Yeah but AS stops you from learning and picking up on things like behaviour in your enviorment.