Problems with trust

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I have a very difficult time keeping friends because I feel like I keep being betrayed by everyone I put my trust in. I've always been a one-friend type of person my entire life (three is definitely a crowd for me), and it's always been a revolving door for whatever reason. Sometimes the person will move away. Sometimes they get tired of me. Many times they find some significant other which they devote their time to instead of me. I've always gravitated toward outcast-type people because I always think they can relate to me. Then they always find someone and no longer become the outcast, and I feel like I've been replaced. Is this common in others with Asperger's, or is this just me?

I used to be that way, until I tried being more social and realized I just don't like spending much time with people.

To answer your question as well as I can, I have not been tested for Asperger's though I at least share many of the traits. I don't keep friends very well either. I tend to prefer outcasts, possibly because there are fewer friends-of-friends involved and less annoyance.

PS - Most people will find significant others and spend a significant amount of time with them. If you are looking for a deep two-person relationship, you might want to look into dating or some variant of it.

Yes I've had similar issues with friends.

i have similar issues. I found that the best thing to do is to get into a long term loving relationship, and then your partner will support you, and you them.

Not trusting people is not a "problem." It means you've figured out how the world works and have resolved not to be hurt and let down by others. Because people really do suck.

That you can't go through life without trusting other people, or that you need meaningless interaction in order to have personal fulfillment, is a bunch of bunk created by NTs. They find it incomprehensible that you can have a good life by yourself.

I have found too much time wasted on people who couldn't accept me~i agree the outcasts make better friends as they aren't beholden to keeping up appearances~