Obsessing over lost and failed friendships

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I had an argument with my parents this evening regarding a friendship that I lost over two years ago. I keep bringing in up in conversation, and for some reason they don't want to hear about it anymore. It was a friendship where I hade devoted my whole life into his dispostion at the time, out of the blue he got nasty with me and has completely cut off all contact with me. After the loss of the friendship, I had a near nervious breakdown (also brought on by other things going on at home, at work and personally). It has been so difficult for me to move on from this whole situation.

I have noticed that I have done this at other points in my life over lost friendships. Do I sometimes have an unconscious feeling that about conversing about these friendships with others will bring them back? I notice that I have a tendency of talking less about those that I share a healthy relationship with. Is this a common thing with folks with Aspergers and on the autism spectrum? How do I have a healthy conversation people without them getting terse with me when I bring these people up?

Hi, this is my first time here.

Your post really resonated with me as I have had a couple of close friendships disintegrate around me- one in the last couple of years.

I find it really hard to get past the loss of this friend and I still can't work out what happened. I haven't really got any advice but I share your pain.

I can relate, sort of. I dont bring it up all the time to other people, but I certainly will think back to friendships that inexplicably ended and try to analyze what mystery caused the fizzle. Its very frustrating not to know why someone who supposedly liked you abruptly changed their mind.

I can relate, sort of. I dont bring it up all the time to other people, but I certainly will think back to friendships that inexplicably ended and try to analyze what mystery caused the fizzle. Its very frustrating not to know why someone who supposedly liked you abruptly changed their mind.