Never Had A Girlfriend

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Has anyone never had a girlfriend and girls pity you, but boys make fun of you? I have. I'm 14 and there's this girl that I like, but she's like really popular and everyone mocks me and makes such a big deal out of it. She likes me back as a friend as we are good mates, but how do I make that one more step so my fantasy comes true and I'm actually with the girl of my dreams? I'm in competition as well and in a way am stuck with what to do. I'm going round her house soon by the way to see her more. Has anyone got any tips for that? Sorry if I put this in the friendship and general social interaction thread instead of the relationships and romance thread.

My son has had similar experiences. He's friends with several girls, but they have told them there not interested romantically. I think they are just trying to be nice. He is getting frustrated too, but he's still out there trying. It's hard. I'm afraid I can't give you any advice, but just wanted to tell you I know how hard it is. Hang in there.

You probably don't want to hear this, but if you're into a girl and she doesn't like you in the same way it's probably not gonna happen.

19 and never had one. High school dating is a load of s**t anyways.

You are not alone, man. I'm about to be 18 and I've yet to have a girlfriend. It's painful feeling lonely but I won't explain it right here. I've already told that in a thread I posted before.

22 and never had a GF

I'm 23, never had a girlfriend or dated either, I could very well end up single and a virgin for life, ah well. If I were you I would not get too concerned, then again I rarely listened to other people's opinions when I was 14

When I was 14 I was still quite in my little own world mentally. I was pretty introverted, although not shy and socially isolated as a teen. I for instance never took apart in after school activities or went over to other friends place. I did not think not having a girlfriend was unusual. I would have happily dated and had a girlfriend if the chance came, but it wasn't a need. Nobody I knew really thought me not having a girlfriend was unusual, then again I was the social outcast in school.

Alternative, I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. That is a most difficult situation.

I'm 23 I am haven't had a girlfriend yet either. I have been interested in a couple of girls over the year. The later one (in an alternative school) seemed to have a rather similar personality (I think she actually may have had AS) and we talked alot together for a period of several weeks, but it never really developed. It took me a long while to get over that. As I get older I find it easier to adjust to the relative isolation although I'd still love meet a girl one day.

Best of luck.

Yours is a challenging social situation by any standard, that can, nevertheless, perhaps be broken down into separate and reasonable problem statements even only as a point of departure:
1) How to deepen the relationship.
2) How to create unobtrusive opportunities for her to cross the mythic line.
3) How to present a better case than her other suitors.
A) What are her own romantic dissatisfactions, if any?
B) What turns her on?

Wow, I don't think my post made a lot of sense. I should have read the original message more closely.

Alternative, how close are you to this girl? How long have you been friends? I don't have alot of experience I am afraid but after my failed attempt to make things more formal with a girl in HS my close friendship with her sort of fell apart. I think I may have handled somewhat poorly (in a very shy standoff-ish manner) helped contribute to this. I never imagined this happening before I asking her on a date. It was very unnerving I didn't get over it for months.

You may be a better at intermingling however.

I'm 18. Never had a girlfriend. Do I care? Not particularly, although it would be nice to have one. I'm quite happy as I am, though.