My Neighbour with AS

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Howdy, I'm a dude with "Light" AS which lives in a house with 3 apartments, and the thing is that my neighbour upstairs have an "Extreme" case of AS, which litterally has made him socially ret*d(Sorry for saying this but its a fact)

He is 19 and looks like a boy that is 13-14
He doesn't say much and it seems that he doesn't like to speak to others
He has no real life friends that I know of
He is really into RPG gaming and Animé
He has bad hygiene


As for me I feel sorry for him, and I really don't want to have him drown in lonelieness

Is there a way that I can help him out?

Also should i introduce him to this site?

Hmm. You have other posts that don't seem so troll-like. Maybe you are just a lot more "socially ret*d" than you think - considering you thought it would be a good idea to join an AS message board and insult everyone.

Now please, I ain't trollin'

I'm not trying to insult anyone, I do have a bad habit of being very honest, please don't flame me or anything

Believe me, I'm a bit socially ret*d myself, but I do manage

I'm just simply asking for advice how I can help my neighbour

Why do you want to help your neighbor?

Thing is, do your neighbour, if he really exists, wants help?
I am pretty peaceful person in general but if I spot that someone comes up my alley all rarin' to help me, I might hit them.

He is pretty much lonely

Based upon my own experience, I know how awful it is to sit infront of a computer everyday and watch the world pass by without being a part of it.

Right now he is just doing the same things over and over and doesn't progress very much, and he doesn't participate so much at school either

As for me I hope there is way that I can help him to break the evil circle of lonelines

Yeah. So far you have not given any explanation for your motivation to help which makes your story suspect.

Why? How do you know what he does all day? You said he has no real friends, so you certainly don't consider him your friend. Are you doing this to make yourself feel better about your "light" case of AS or are you are just a swell guy?

You want a whole novel obviously, well here ya go:


It started 6 months ago, he moved in above me, and I went upstairs to say hi(Kinda cool to have another AS guy around)
When i met him he didn't say much and i tried to ask him about his interests, what he likes/dislikes etc etc but he didn't answer much so I felt that I didn't connect with him

As the months passed I tried multiple times to have a conversation with him but he didn't participate much in it except for sayin': yes and no
I tried to say that he should find some sport and I tried to invite him to join the Taekwondo club we have over here, but he declined.
Months passed and I got bored of trying to connect with him so I stopped going upstairs without much progress.
A couple of times after that I went up because I had to fix the Internet Connection, and then I noticed that it was very unpleasant smell up there and the room was quite untidy.

After that I thought: Enough is enough, this guy needs help, I can't let him catch dust up there.


Now I'm not a Novelist but this is best explaination I can give

Yeah bring him here.

Does he want help with his skills?

Some people don't mind being alone nor do they mind not having any friends. Some prefer to not participate either. Just because you minded it doesn't mean he does.

Hmmm, I personally would be very happy to "sit infront of a computer everyday and watch the world pass by without being a part of it" if I could afford it. As, I suppose, would be at least 30 % of the people on this forum.
People with autism don't always want to be part of the world as it is. And they might not want people butting in. You think the man is lonely, he - and I - might think he has all the social interaction he wants.

If you really want advice, I'd say leave people alone. Sorry if I do sound harsh to you, but that's how I would react if somebody tries to socialise me forcibly. My own apartment is squeaky clean but if I wanted it dirty, it's my business and woe is the poor idiot who dares to come in and decide what's good for myself.

Last edited by Severus on 19 Jan 2011, 8:14 pm, edited 2 times in total.

How did you know he has AS?

Ah yes, I was about to ask the same question.

Well if that's the truth I'll leave it be then, but its kinda sad to think about how much of the world he is missing




The owner of the house told me

Yep, he's a psychiatrist, I see. Lucky you.

If that's extreme AS I'd hate to know what I have.