What are good strategies for befriending people?

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If you have any good strategies for how you start or initiate convo's with people in public venues or anywhere else share them.

Just walk up to the person and start feeling their genitals.

You're in a weird mood today, Space...

Most of the new people I meet are from uni. A really easy opener is to start talking about exams or an upcoming assignment, or the course content. Then things can move from there, but you have to remember to remain flexible in what you talk about because you can't talk about that sorta stuff forever. Try not to think too much about where you want to head the conversation, because you might miss cues to talk about other things. I tend to do that a lot, and then it frustrates me when the conversation turns to something else, because I've gone to all the trouble of thinking what to say.

Until you are really good at keeping conversations going, it's good to stop a conversation yourself once you see that you're both about to run out of things you want to talk about. Otherwise it can lead to many an awkward moment.

as long as ur female, that would work on me..

The way I learned was to smile,be kind to everyone,and be friendly in a way that fits your personality.


-SpaceCase

As SpaceCase said, being nice to everyone usually works. That's what I always do, and while I still get teased by a few people, for the most part, people are generally nice back to me.

Take interest into what the new person is into. Enjoy being around them most new people can detact that your uncomfortable being around them. Say hi and talk about the weather. I've learned these things mostly from watching TV but they should work.

Ask them about their Hobbies and Interests. The Formula that I try to follow, is "FORM"

Family
Occupation
Recreation
Music

That way, I can find out what the person is interested in, without looking like a Nut Bar.

Bus stops or train stations are great places for that I find, you initiate it by asking if the bus or train has gone by yet and then can launch into a tirade about how late the buses always are except for ones going the other way and then go from there. Most people will be glad to pass the time waiting for a train or bus, makes them feel less selfconcious about standing around akwardly looking for a train every 5 seconds when they know they will hear it before they can see it

Striking up conversation might not be a problem, but achieving any ongoing connection seems the more tenuous.

Get there fast before the well is poisoned.


It's not pessism, it's accuracy.


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