Do people just talk at you?

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I'm fairly quiet and get fatigued by too much talking (that is, about 10 minutes or more) and it doesn't matter if it's me or the other person talking. Over the last two weeks, people have just been talking at me nonstop, even people I've just met. I'm not even really engaging, just saying "uh-huh" or "heh, yeah".

Anybody else get this? If not, what is your experience when talking with people? Do they talk a lot and you just a little or the other way around or is it 50-50?


ps - I used to talk more, but then I realized other people weren't interested in what I had to say and it was tiresome for me to try to get a word in. So I stopped.

It highly depends upon the subject. If they are discussing fashion or sports, then I do not listen, or even pretend to, but if the subject concerns Philosophy, Science or History, I will be listening and conversing more so than the other person.

Sometimes it's me doing all the talking, and sometimes it's the other person doing all the talking. It depends who I'm talking to.

People talking at you, and then getting offended when you wish to either stop listening or talk at them for a change, with a rare few who will accept an exchange of monologues...

isn't that what social interaction is?

It usually takes me a while to realize when someone just wants to talk AT me. I begin to notice their impatience and frustration when I dare to talk. I try to get away from those people. Sometimes people do a thing where they say "yeah" [pronounced: yaw-h] when I'm talking and it makes me feel like they're not listening. I try to finish what I'm saying as quickly as possible to get away from that discussion, too. My husband does it and claims it's an acknowledgment of what I'm saying, not a dismissal but sometimes people (including him) will do it before I'm even done with a sentence. It gives me a different impression.

There's always a chance I'm misreading things but, remember, it's not just aspies who can be socially inappropriate. NTs can be rude, too... even unintentionally.

I tend to talk at people, well, a lot of my old friends dont have much to say of their own unless they respond to my petitions and it gets dialogue going. I'm going to talk about what interests me no matter what, anyway. I think I'm changing back to my old non-active-but-odd (silent) mode. people aren't as interested in what I'm into, anyway & won't understand topics like I do, however I speak of them. well, not as much as I'd like them to relate, but it's an unfair assumption on my part. going off topic..

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So, what is this relating thing you speak of?

yeah. sometimes my brother does that - one time he admitted to me he was only talking to hear himself talk. *sigh*