I don't understand.

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Sometimes, a specific girl says "Hey Jane" to me (that is my first name) and then proceeds to laugh or, if I say "Hi" back, mimic how I say it. I can detect the essence of sarcasm on her face whenever she says it, and it occurs in the hallway, yet in class she isn't always like this to me. In the hallway, though, she's always around some other girls (who are "mean", I guess) so I don't really understand why she's so different when she's around one of them... not to say she isn't bitchy in class sometimes. She's kind of funny, but I don't know why she insists on "mocking" me in the hall. Would you classify that as "mocking", even? She wasn't really nice to me in elementary school, but that was when I was a silent bookworm who had a sense of humor that was understood by no peers (now I'm "funny.")

I don't know.

It is a classic bullying technique. Being in a group of their peers they are more comfortable with acting like jerks because no one around them will call them on.

I was slightly younger than you are now, when I began to notice some girls would act nice to me but were actually just making fun. And then they would go laugh about it with their friends.

I would advise to ignore it but I know that's pretty impossible to do in a school setting. Just remember she's looking for a reaction, any reaction. It is like a cat playing with a mouse, as soon as the mouse stops moving the cat loses interest. Does that make any sense?

What Pink said, just ignore her completely and she'll give up, unless she's really dumb.

The next time you see her, give her a nice friendly middle finger and walk off. Or mock her right back, or think of something witty to say.

I can't say I get her sense of humor either.. but she probably thinks it's funny just because she intends to be mean. lame sauce.

anyways, my suggestion would be to say 'Hi' back to her as strangely as you possibly can.. in as many different voices as you can muster throughout the days. shout 'Hi' in her face. Let her know you know her game, and confuse the hell out of her.

This. I love messing with people.

This reminds me of one time in 7th grade I believe, where some douche that hated me for no reason was trying to trip me and said"Don't trip Sean!", but he failed and I said "Don't worry, I didn't." That angered him.

I remember this at school.

They pretend to be nice to you when they're actually mocking you, it means it's all the more difficult for you to socialise because you don't know when people are being nice to you if they're genuine or not...I still feel this way today. It's pathetic, bullying can be dealt with but this is harder because it's not like you can really pull them on it or tell teachers 'she was being NICE to me' - it is best to ignore her.

Ugh, takes me back. I always got sarcastic "hi"s, and when In didn't answer they'd overreact as if I'd been rude to them.

Maybe I appear kind of weak in the original post.

I can be unpleasant and ruthless with insults. Actually, I am a lot of the time irl. Sometimes on this site. More so on other ones. Meh.

But now that I understand that she's "bullying", I'm asking: do you think it's worth it to insult her or say anything back?

she'll get more pissed off if you ignore her.

As tempting as it might be to mess with her, no it is not worth it. She is not going to be regretful of her actions, or see the error of her ways and back off. Ignoring her, even if she is in your face, is the best way to go.

Confrontation would lead to escalation. And that this is a person you're going to be going to school with for some time, it could lead to a very prolonged stressful situation.

Well, I'm not she should call her out on it by telling the person off, but if someone is playing games with you, they'll probably continue to play them even if you don't acknowledge. Not acknowledging that you know she's being a jerk can be seen as a sign of weakness, of giving up or whatever. Sometimes you gotta use a little force.