Social Anxiety getting so annoying

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I notice when I get stressed and anxious about other stuff, my social anxiety will kick in. My social anxiety gets so annoying: the smallest thing happens and I'll make a huge deal outta it. If nothings happening, I need to "make it up". I was just talking to a friend saying stuff like:

"You guys dont like me"
"Its so awkward"
"I said the smallest thing to her and she took it personally"
"They think Im a b***h"
"He blows me off half the time"
"I dont see them that often"
"Im the one always having to call, it should be mutual but it never is"

My SA is soo annoying I swear...It always gets to me...I get so anxious over nothing. My anxiety has driven me into situations that should have never happened at times.

Same here!

Another pretty weird consequence of it is that whenever I have been in a formal situation when someone was telling me something important, I usually failed to hear any of what they were saying cause I was so busy trying to "look attentive." Have my eyes on them and look interested and say "uh-huh" at the appropriate times and all that. It is like watching a silent movie, or watching someone speaking in another language, that's how little information I get out of those conversations.

I agree completely!

Social interactions can be so awkward, and stressful! I worry about everything im doing/saying, and its so difficult to maintain eye contact.
social anxiety sucks.

I agree completely!

Social interactions can be so awkward, and stressful! I worry about everything im doing/saying, and its so difficult to maintain eye contact.
social anxiety sucks.

hm. i dont know why that posted twice.

Yeah, I can totally relate to this. About 10 years ago, I had a professional mentor pull me aside, and tell me that when I left business meetings I should look people in the eyes- because I was unintentionally giving them the impression I was blowing them off. I'd never really given it much thought before then, but I do it now. It's a balancing act of: looking at them, trying to think of what to say next and trying to ignore all the mental static that the first poster referred to. I do my best, but when its over, I'm often exhausted and wonked for awhile,

this happens to me a lot!

I'm experiencing enormous difficulties with fake smiling those days (during te delay to understand the joke or enter the social situation).
And, btw, the worst part for me is when someone actually relies on you because his/her friend is being annoying/angry/rejecting. It's a terrible feeling not to be able to match the needs in those situations.