Facebook is like a drug!

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Bloody Facebook! I've been on Facebook for nearly 3 years, but now it has turned me into a bitter, depressed freak, and I think I will feel better if I deleted my account. But it's not as easy as that. Like drugs, Facebook makes you become hooked and it's harder than you think to just give it up cold turkey.

Also I have some friends on there that I like being in touch with through Facebook, and I do like reading some things of what people have put (so long as it isn't about youngsters boasting about what lovey-dovey stuff they are doing with their new lovers). So I....

OK to cut a long story short, when you delete your Facebook account, it says it will be took off the system in 2 weeks or something like that. I'm sure it does that on purpose, so that within those 2 weeks you will start to feel guilty that you came off Facebook and you have an urge to get it back. I just wish you could delete your account and it just deletes off the system there and then, and no turning back. It's a bit like a drug-addict wanting to give up drugs cold turkey, but still leaving them the drugs in or near their house, and as much as they're trying to distract themselves on to other things to take their mind off the drugs, the drugs are still in the back of their mind and they go running to the drugs. Low self-esteem does lessen your will-power. And I seem to have no will-power.

Why does Facebook have to do that when you want to delete your account? It's no good just deactivating it, because that's just like signing out. Ohh, why did I ever go on Facebook in the beginning???

You're an NT. No ASpie feels like this ….. I can't stand bloody Facebook.

It's those games that make it a drug.

It was never a problem for me because I always felt it was pretty dumb to begin with. If I want to keep in touch with a friend of mine, I call him/her up and say: "What have you been up to?" or "Wanna come over, have a beer, and watch the game?" My "facebook" is just "dude-book". Yeah, maybe it's harder to contact people I haven't seen in a long time, but it isn't worth bothering with a site like that. Just people spouting out irritating nonsense all day, and people even get into flame wars and got really worked up with each other sometimes.

As if I have any interest in reading that. And people used to ask me all the time "did you see what so and so posted on facebook?" No, I didn't see it because I was too busy actually having a life. Try breathing some fresh air, for christ's sake, at least take a book outside or bring your laptop out if you have one. If you want to socialize with people so badly why are you on your phone looking at facebook when I'm right here having a beer with you? People are just glued to the damn thing and it isn't healthy.

WP is like a drug for me! I keep thinking I should quit and spend more time doing other things, I've been spending A LOT of time here lately but something keeps drawing me back. It's addictive.

My sister had the same problem with facebook and she deleted her account eventually but then "relapsed" and opened a new account and then finally quit facebook again for good, as far as I know.

I go to FB for community and information resources on specific topics. I have only family members and Groups or community pages of my interests. I cannot stand internet or computer games, most especially FB games. Mind numbing. Almost as bad as "reality tv."

I always thought it was an Internet thing in general. All those updates, new things, notifications, etc.

I wish I was NT.

I don't like Facebook that much, but once you're hooked, it's hard to go back. But Facebook often causes me anxiety, like I worry because I haven't got everyone from work on there (only a few people), whilst others from work have like everybody from work on their Facebook. I know it's not important but these sorts of things do worry me for some reason. I want to be part of the crowd but sometimes it feels like too much hard work to keep up.

The reason why I joined in because two friends I used to have wanted me to so I did. Now it's like 3 years later and I don't see or hear from them any more.

Facebook really stresses me out and gives me a lot of anxiety. I always think I like it and it seems like a good way to casually keep in touch and stay in the loop with friends, etc.

however, it seems that I just end up stressing over how many likes my stuff gets, whether people respond to my comments or like what I share with them, finding out things on facebook that I feel I should have been told personally, seeing the way other people respond to my friends and comparing those people's interactions with the friend with mine, thus questioning our relationship, etc etc.

I ended up deleting the Facebook app from my phone but keeping my account along with the Facebook messenger app. This way I can still keep all my contacts if I want to interact in a personal way or need to contact someone for a specific reason, but can avoid the bulk of the drama. I may return to facebook at some point when I have my life a little more under control, but I'm satisfied with this setup for now.

I tried to get into it, for approx. seven months. There were some good design groups that I took a liking to, however, aside from that, I found it anxiety provoking and a waste of time. I deleted my account 10 days, ago, and what a relief.

A. They make money off all active members.
B. They have members who do things they regret when they sober up.

Just wait it out, and if you see any notifications, send them to your spam filter. What you need now is a new habit to fill the time and take your mind off old patterns.

That is an absolutely outrageous thing to say to the OP. Who do you think you are, to say rudely to someone on an autism forum "you're an NT?"

For your information, all Aspies are not clones of you. Just because you can't stand Facebook doesn't mean that all Aspies feel the same way.

If the OP had said "I don't stim" or "I never feel anxious" or "I have no special interests" then you might have some grounds to express tentative doubt over her diagnosis, but I'm afraid that "Facebook phobia" is not listed as a trait of autism on the official diagnostic criteria used by autism experts.

Personally I hate Facebook and do not use it either - but the fact that many Aspies don't use it doesn't make the OP any less of an Aspie if she does use it.

Joe: I don't really know what to say, other than it made me laugh to see you call other Facebook users "youngsters" when your signature shows you're only aged 23 yourself! Do you feel old at 23?

Well when I say ''youngsters'' I'm not always talking about myself. I just meant young people put more crap than older people put, and I prefer to read what older people put than what young people put. But that is a generalization, as some youngsters I have on Facebook put things worth reading, and not things like ''had a wonderful day out with my boyfriend'' or ''had a great time last night at [name of nightclub] with friend 1, friend 2 and 5 others''. That sort of s**t makes me feel isolated and jealous.

I also hate it when people call their ''clubbing'' town a slang name, like calling Chelmsford ''Chelmoo'' or London ''Lunners''. I mean, what the f**k??

It's one continuous bad high for me.

But I like to know what my favourite bands are up to. Oh and family too, I guess.