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In public, when any of you are depressed about something, and someone else tells you to be happy, how do you react?

i may throw small things (like pennys and bottle caps) at the person,

or i just don't care and
>say ok and fake happy.
> I can't just bwe happy because...
sometimes depressed means i am sad and get angry very easy, other times it makes me not care about stuff for a while. Throwing things makes me feel better than the other one.

I don't say anything. As far as I know, someone simply TELLING you to be happy doesn't make it so. It's quite stupid.

I personally think you should.

there's nothing worse than having someone tell you to be happy, when your depressed. personally i don't want to hear it, just let me get over my depression. you telling me anything is not going to help me

After getting pissed off at the "be happy" comments, I managed to come up with a good comeback. I usually respond: "Being happy because you told me to, is like taking a sh*t because you told me to." Usually this stops them in their tracks, and they give up, probably because they start seeing the fallacy in their comment.

If somebody says "cheer up" or "be happy" I say "f**k off!!" I'm depressed and thats the way it's gonna stay until I'm happy again. I hate this kinda sh*t. Nobody can tell me to "be happy" I'm happy when I want to be happy. It's an NT remark which I deteste.

I get that all the time, especially from my parents, who have no idea what depression is like. I find it really frustrating, especially because they have no idea what I'm going through and don't realise that being told to be happy actually makes it worse because I can't control it.

Usually I say nothing, because I can't think of a response that sums up how I feel.

I hate that a lot. My brother will sometimes start up something trivial and turn it into something negative, like the other day at the supermarket something accidentally fell from the trolley and he sarcastically said "That was smart" and I replied "Well maybe you could have picked it up" and my mum tried to stop any arguing. I don't really like my brother that much. He is full of it. Some people are just so pessimistic.

My parents often try to show negative emotion for my sulking, and later they try to calm me down. They often say "Can't you just drop it?" but they don't know what the experience is like for an Aspie. I take it as abuse that someone can treat me nastily and get away with it.

My family out numbers me 3 to 1 (NT to Aspie) and my brother can get away with such nastiness. Whatever happened to punishments like "Keep arguing and you'll get a smack" or "Shut up or you can't go to the club tonight"? My brother is very nasty towards me; I have lost most, if not all trust for him. Can anyone think of any good comebacks to say to him?

If he tells you to be happy, you can tell him: "Being happy on command is like taking a sh*t on command." Just as it's physically impossible to go to the bathroom when the rectum is empty, it's impossible to feel happy while being depressed. This is the only analogy most NTs will understand. If your brother is sneaky enough to get you in trouble for swearing, you can say "going #2" instead.

Well, he doesn't really say "cheer up". My parents often do.

The comeback works on anyone. Just use the non-swearing version on your parents.

I also get that from my folks, as well. You can't get a person to be happy, just by telling them to do so. I just walk off into my Bedroom and log-on to the Internet, and only than can I be happy. There's another way that I can be happy, and it costs money.

I usually give them a really fake and somewhat angry-looking smile. This is the first time I've ever heard of anyone ordering guys to be happy.