How to meet people and pick which friends have characters

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I often meet people with who I seem to like and then I find out that the majority of these people turn out to be people with poor character and values along with being a bad friend.


I am currently in college and I would like to meet and make some connections with some students who have good examples, morals and characters.

1. How do I got about meeting them
2. How do I stay in contact
3. How do I judge the character
4. How do I keep a friend?

Those are terribly complicated questions that after my four yrs of college, I havent fully figured out.

For one thing, you have to be more specific with what kinda character are looking for, what would you like to do with your friends, what type of morals you want them to have. On the otherhand sometimes you cant be too specific and not hold the bar too high or else your just gonna end up with no friends.

The same ole suggestion I can give is try joining clubs with people with common interests. Perhaps try talking to people thru ur classes.

How you stay in contact, once you meet someone, at the acquintance level keep saying hi and making small talk and hopefully something evolves from there. I found its a lot easier if you already have friends, try to get to know there friends. Hopefully if you already have a friend of a decent character, they also hangout with people with decent characeters.

As for 3 and 4. Cant give you an answer. For me, it takes a lot of trial and error and life experieance to know that. Those are 2 huge problems in my life, even tho Ive improved throughout college. Its still tough. I would guess aspies have a tough time judging characeter. Ive seriously have had friends, gotten to know them for a yr roughly and then I'll have another friend who only knows them as an acquintance and has gotten a better sense of them then I have. As for keeping friends, uhh my normal lifespan for a friend is probably 1-1.5 yrs. Not long. Tho friends drift in and out. Most of those friends just drifted out. Some have ended not so pleasantly.

1. How do I got about meeting them
I shifted to this new place and didnt interact much with anyone though many people came upto me and interacted
but i found their character and behaviours and also reputation bad so i did not interact much with them.
You can keep talking with people and one who as same vibe like your will come upto you and make friends.

2. How do I stay in contact
Being a AS and past bad experiences i have noticed that if i keep contacting they backoff so now i only keep in touch
if they do.

3. How do I judge the character
Observe their body language, do they smoke, are they too promiscuous, look at their attitude if you feel they are
too extrovert then get away from them because AS and NT extroverts make bad combination and friendship does not last

4. How do I keep a friend
Dont go out of your way, dont chase them, keep calling them, be easy, when they call then reply or meet them if they want to
dont tell all ur secrets because AS friendship dont last long