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Brianruns10
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15 Apr 2011, 9:32 am

Tried to strike up a conversation just now with a coworker. She's usually so chummy with everyone else, but with me, before I get two words out, she interrupts and says, "I'm really busy, can we talk about this later."

I was I supposed to know? She was just sitting at her desk, having gotten a coffee. Of course NOW she's busy on the phone, trying to catch up on stuff she should've been doing earlier, because like most people I know she's lazy, barely competent, drinks too much wine and has no ambition in life.

I'm f*****g sick of all these people I try to be social with who reject it. And I"M the one who gets called antisocial (not in the correct psychological term, but in the pejorative, layperson term for one who is not social)!

I've said it before, and I'll say it again. I hate people, and I vow to never rely on them, except in how they may enable me to further my own ambitions. Because my whole life they've never seen an interest in me as a friend or a lover, only as a worker, only someone who has something they want, and when they've gotten it they can discard me. Well two can play at this.

I dedicate my life to my work, to my films. I'm gonna be the best damn documentary filmmaker of my generation, and every goddamn person who ever wronged me, dismissed me, treated me with disdain, or didn't care one way or another will see how they misjudged me, and they wlll forever be marked as the fools they are, working their humdrum, worthless, meaningless jobs, while they perpetuate the species by engaging in disgusting and bestial acts of procreation, while I crafts works of art which will live long past them, when all that is left is a decaying tombstone and an obituary in a newspaper archive.

To HELL WITH PEOPLE.



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15 Apr 2011, 9:35 am

Trying to explain the difference to people between 'asocial' and 'antisocial' makes me want to turn antisocial at times.

Antisocial = people who smash things up, get drunk and vomit in the streets, people who beat elderly women up and then goes on about their rights, innit. Scum, in other words.
Asocial = just someone who isn't that good at communication and therefore isn't given to much social interaction but is otherwise essentially peaceful.



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15 Apr 2011, 9:39 am

So you pick a really inconvenient, inopportune time to bother someone who you obviously don't like because you're quick to insult everything about her to a bunch of strangers... and she's the one who's the blame for your hissy fit and hatred of mankind?

I don't think so.

Does anti-social behavior not leave room for self-awareness and accountability?



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15 Apr 2011, 1:14 pm

@ Tequila

:lol: Same here.

I think she just doesn't like him. She could of at least have the decency to politly listen for a few minutes. That's what I do when I find myself on the otherside of such a situation, although it annoys the hell out of me.
I can relate very well with what Brianruss said, I feel exactly the same at times.



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15 Apr 2011, 4:08 pm

It's very possible that he reacted the same way to her on an occasion when she tried to be friendly with him, so she's merely decided to treat him with the same. One thing about these conditions is that we can brush off people without realizing how rude it seems. We don't have a complete picture, only what Brian says happened with all his negative feelings attached.



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15 Apr 2011, 8:01 pm

Sorry you're upset Brian. Are you sure you really hate her tho? Or are your feelings hurt because she of what happened? Anyway not trying to derail your vent, just wondering.



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15 Apr 2011, 10:03 pm

Brianruns10 wrote:
Tried to strike up a conversation just now with a coworker. She's usually so chummy with everyone else, but with me, before I get two words out, she interrupts and says, "I'm really busy, can we talk about this later."

I was I supposed to know? She was just sitting at her desk, having gotten a coffee. Of course NOW she's busy on the phone, trying to catch up on stuff she should've been doing earlier, because like most people I know she's lazy, barely competent, drinks too much wine and has no ambition in life.


I'm gonna let you in on a secret.

She wasn't busy. She just didn't want to talk to you.

There's a good chance that she doesn't care much for your company.

I know, it's hard to comprehend, but together, with a lot of prayer, we can come to terms with it.



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17 Apr 2011, 8:06 am

I agree with you. Our society is too dependent on socializing. Whenever I see a group of people talking with each other, I just want to dump gas all over their heads and set them on fire.



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17 Apr 2011, 6:22 pm

Try to let those people and their actions not bother you to much. Focus on the nice ones, who don't care talking to you, who are helpful.
In my experience, people reflect your feelings. When approaching someone whilst thinking 'I hate people', you'd probably get no to little response or you'd get a negative attitude back.


Tequila wrote:
Trying to explain the difference to people between 'asocial' and 'antisocial' makes me want to turn antisocial at times.

Antisocial = people who smash things up, get drunk and vomit in the streets, people who beat elderly women up and then goes on about their rights, innit. Scum, in other words.
Asocial = just someone who isn't that good at communication and therefore isn't given to much social interaction but is otherwise essentially peaceful.


Thanks for this explanation. Here, it's the other way around, 'asociaal' (Dutch) means what you described as antisocial. A mistake less I'll be making!



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17 Apr 2011, 9:59 pm

you'll poision yourself and no one will care how many achievements you've made if you don't have real, live connections to those ppl. Don't give up b/c of the one straw that broke the camels back with this one interaction w. a coworker. coworker chat is surface, superficial and impossible to decode for some of us.

Seek real social interaction elsewhere... and make great films, if that is what you are meant to do! It will be a lot more rewarding having even one "balcony person" cheering you on at your moment of triumph than a whole auditorium of nerdowells, naysayers, who thought you'd fail, being surprised you didn't. They won't care either way.

Don't give up!



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19 Apr 2011, 2:33 am

Some people just have no sympathy for anyone but themselves. No I take that back; many people don't. I just wouldn't even bother with this person and try talking with someone else.



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19 Apr 2011, 3:13 am

I have noticed usually people talk behind my back.
In one organisation i worked i had one friend she told me that when she was taking a walk
down the department people were talking that i look sad, depressed, different and im dumb

I think this lady as same impression of you and probably they keep discussing this in their
group.

If she ignores you like this its probably hint that they are pulling jokes behind your back
So next time dont approach them... be careful,



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19 Apr 2011, 3:27 am

People are insecure, which is why they need to huddle and have trivial nonsense things in common. They are happy when someone is chosen as a victim because they can group together and feel strong, whilst feeling a sense of relief that it wasn't their turn.



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24 Apr 2011, 12:49 pm

I understand how you feel OP... deep down I'm seething with a lot of anger toward people who I feel have ditched me or let me down and I have become very distrustful of and bitter toward the world of NTs. I just try to not let it get to me and turn into some sort of psychosis, and strive to enjoy the things that really matter in life (which don't include other people).

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24 Apr 2011, 3:12 pm

I'm still not seeing what she did wrong here.