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Ai_Ling
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18 Apr 2011, 9:14 pm

I have a few friends that I talk about other friends with, some friends dont always know each other or know each other well. One thing Ive noticed is that my friends are able to pick up more about another friends personality or character then I am able to even tho I might have known the person for a yr and have spent time getting to know them. Like my other friend will be able to guage more about their character based on a few brief impressions about the person. I find this kinda scary and fustrating at the same time. I dont get a good sense of persons character has led me to looking in the wrong direction for friends. Sometimes I will have been friends for someone for a yr and I didnt get enough sense of them that I do something stupid or I should have kept my distance from trying to get to know them better. In order to get a strong sence of a person, it requires me to constantly inquire them and overanalyze there behavior and thats can be downright annoying and creepy for the other person.



rabchild
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19 Apr 2011, 1:28 am

I sometimes do that and have to remind myself to just back off and try to find some sort of balance. Then there are those
times I hit the nail dead on with very little to go on. Those are eerie and I have no idea how it happens. Sort of a "look how
regular people act in social settings and try to act like that". Then still screwing it up and having to start over. Not so much
with a sense of their character. That I seem to pick out more easily. More the "how am I supposed to be acting" part of it.

Frustrating.