Socialising with a new group of people.

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It's been 2 days of straight socialising and now i'm back in my bedroom feeling stressed out to heck and wondering if they all like me. How do i stay on peoples good side? Honestly this is the first time i've socialised with a group since i was a teenager. I'm worried i'll f**k it up.

Please try hard not to over-think the situation. Try hard to relax and don't worry about messing all of this socializing up.

First of all, two days in a row of socializing, after maybe not socializing to that degree, is A LOT. Distract yourself by doing something you like to do alone for a day. Give yourself some time to adjust to all of this socializing.

I am sort of a social person by nature (I'm NT), but as I grow older, I relate very much to my son (Aspie) who gets worn out by too much socializing. I am exhausted after certain events -- parties with people I don't have much in common with, actually any socializing with people I don't like. I want to minimize that kind of socializing as much as possible, and after I do spend time this way, I really am tired and need to unwind, alone.

Do not worry about whether you've done the right thing or not. You are socializing, and that's a good thing. Pay attention to the few times you make mistakes socially, and try to eliminate those mistakes as you socialize further. But don't obsess over the mistakes. Trust me, truly social NT's don't worry over their mistakes, and yes, they do make mistakes too.

That's good advice. Thanks.

this is going to sound kinda cocky, but i love meeting completely new groups of people because I can establish myself as an persona i want. my high school buddies see me as the love-able goofball but my construction buddies see me in a way as "the big dog".

just remember that with new people, they'll see you in any way that you portray yourself. im not saying act like someone else. im saying that you can let another side of you stand out

I'm generally just pretty quiet. I'm worried that the fact i'm quiet and the fact they know that i have AS without them knowing much about the condition will render me dumb in their eyes.