Meeting People Online

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Basically, on the website OKCupid, I've been chatting with this one guy for months. He's been wanting to meet me in person for some time, and now I'm starting to think that maybe it wouldn't be a big deal for me to meet him in person. We could meet at the local mall during the afternoon.

I have no romantic interest in this guy, but I guess it still couldn't hurt to meet him in person? Does anyone have any experience in this area? I'd like to hear other opinions before I make any decision.

I'd say go ahead! If you aren't interested in him romantically then just make that clear and obvious to him. Although who knows, that might all change once you've met him a few times...
I've met people online (well, person) and it's worked out great for me! I do think the internet is a good way to meet people because it means you could find someone you really gel with who you would never have come across in real life.

I met up with a member from this forum before.

I'd say to go for it.

If he doesn't already know make it clear that there is no romantic interest there, and obviously be careful not just by meeting in a busy public place but also watching out not to go anywhere alone with him, being careful if using transport with him, keep purse close, make sure he doesn't follow you when you head home, etc. Maybe have a friend or family member close by just in case you don't feel safe with him or to offer a social buffer if things don't go very well at first - also maybe think of where you could go, somewhere where you can do something fun or interesting but where you'd still be able to chat.

I've met a fair few people in person who I'd originally met online, not for a good few years though as my online socialising seems to have been killed by Facebook. I've met two of my ex-boyfriends online, and several friends, going from online chatting to real-life meeting did make the friendship more real and a lot more beneficial, not all people you meet online are weirdo's after all.