Anyone here fairly decent at introductions?

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I've been working in a social environment for about five years now and I feel that that its helped me tremendously with one-on-one conversations, especially introductions. True, they are always the same and are quite generic, but its enough to come off as friendly and sociable for a little while at least. I have categories of topics to talk about and as long as I have those to run through, I do okay...except for those particularly bad days. Anything but your basic, standard body language cues and sarcasm are still lost on me.

Anyways, anyone else feel that they've learned enough social skills to fake it when meeting people?

My major problem is getting over the anxiety and doing it. I just walk up to people smile try and make eye contact, ask them their name (or offer mine) then get them talking about something (usually whatever it is we have common ground over). Then you just have to listen and make reasonable comments/questions. It often works. I don't feel like I'm faking anything.

i usually just dont.
the way i get my conversations is by joining in on an existing one; and just keep going after the participants i already knew left.
that way, there is no real need to introduce yourself and if it should be needed, the other person will usually start introducing, so i can just follow the lead.

I am great at introductions. Years of sales and Promotions jobs made me ok at it. Mind you i tend to use the same speil each time.

Anything after the intro, i suck at.

I'm fine when we are in a setting MADE for that, for instance:

"Class, introduce yourself to your neighbor"...I'm fine with

I'm ok when it is a random person in line

"Are you waiting for this"....pretty decent

I'm not ok when I am at an event, and someone I KNOW who knows me, and I am awkward around (because they are hot or they hate me) is there.

"Heyyyy".....and then I dart to the nearest alone spot try and regain my social composure.

I have anxiety over being the first person to talk. I can sometimes manage it online, but in person I almost never do it.

Introductions just don't happen. Not unless the person comes up to me first. Even then I usually just say my name while staring at the floor or something off to the side.

If i am in a room and everyone is being quiet, i tend to make some crazy remark. Like "wow party central, maybe i should spike the punch."