What does she want?

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I had a fallout with a classmate of mine a while ago, and I'm confused right now.

A classmate of mine at one random time started talking to me, so I talked back. I believe I got too exited and moved too fast to talk to her more in the days/weeks later. Since we take the same tram and train usually I found it nice to go to her and talk to her about the most useless things.

At one point I got mixed signals and thought she liked me (since I like her). But then I got confused and went to her to ask if there were any feelings. she freaked out a lot (quite hysterical). Asked "why do you always follow me" and then told me to leave her alone. Which I then did.

Now, month(s) later we still take the same train and sometimes the same tram (she tends to avoid taking the same one as me). I'm doing as she requested, so I show that I'm not what she thinks of me (if I'm correct in thinking she thinks I had bad intentions/harasser type)


Now my question is, she hasn't stopped looking in my direction (at me, since I'm usually the only one in that direction) every once and a while and I wonder why. I mean, if she doesn't want me to bother her why draw my attention. Also, she and her friend looked at me Friday and giggled from a distance. Which isn't something new.

I'm confused. What should my heading be captain?!

If she asked you to leave her alone, then leave her alone. If she has changed her mind, she will come to you to let you know. Otherwise, don't give it any more head space.

Just leave her alone, unless you want trouble. .. In which case, maybe sometime you can just be cordial and say "hi, how are you?" Just have a short conversation and don't talk too much or monopolize her attention or time. Then you can see how she reacts to that.

Thanks so far I do not plan to bother her at all, so I'm fine in that regard. I'm just wondering what might be going on in her head. I have a ton of theories but they all seem equally probable. I can't let it go because she feels uncomfortable around me, and that hurts me :/ She's a nice person, I'm sure of that.

Been there, done that.
I hate to say this, but just try to get over her (if you still have any feelings for her). If you keep trying to get in contact with her (though it doesn't seem you have thus far, which is good), you'll most likely only end up getting more hurt. At least it's happened to me.

Burn her in effigy at the burning man festival. That will quell your desires.

I don't get the sense that you would care if she'd just get over it. Some people don't want attention, yet can't stand to be ignored. I hope she finds something else to be interested in.

Use psychic self-defense, if you think that's possible.

I just hate making people feel bad because of me <.< She still does it takes same station stairs as me then continues to stand on opposite end. It doesn't bother me so it's all fine. But I do hope one day she'll talk again and then I could explain. Until then this remains a sort of dance lol