I'm in college and I had a tutor. anyways he would tutor me and he took it a step forward into friendship by saying he wants to hang out and go get pizza and stuff every week (if thats not friendship, then what is?). soon i found out that he was kind of an ass. He ignored my text messages and I asked why he did it and he said "because it wasn't important, or it wasn't interesting, or I was busy." one time he said that I text him stupid stuff and I asked him to check his message and tell me if the message I sent was stupid and he said "oh that wasnt stupid, but I was busy". he was such a liar. anyways I would tell people this stuff but they'd blame me for not understanding his feelings. I ended up just asking him why he didn;t respond and he said "Im not obligated to respond, you're not my dad, and I really am busy!!". I said "i know you're not obligated to respond, that's what makes it nice if you do respond every once in a while. and I know you're not my f-ing dad that's obvious, and it's hard to believe anyone is busy 24/7". but he text me when it came to things about him, like "lets have a tutoring session, or just sign the paper so I can get money" i would do it to be nice. again, i told people this and they said I was the one being selfish.
The last straw was when I asked him if I could use his debit card and give him money for the price of the thing I wanted to buy offline, he did it before. in return i'd give him money and sign the tutor sheet for free. he did it once and 3 weeks later I asked again, and on amazon the card stays on the account and it only shows the last four digits of the card number therefore i couldnt use his card anywhere else. he said you're trying to control my account like it's yours! and I wasnt I was asking. anyways I said, yes or no? and he said "maybe". and I said just tell me yes or no so we can move passed this thing. and he never texted back. I told someone and they said "you should just call him if you wanna get passed this thing, so I called him and I said, hey you never texted back telling me yes or no...and he said "yeah you were bugging me!", so I hung up, and I started ignoring his calls.
he called me at least 15 times and I ignored all of his calls. then I was walking on campus one day and he saw me and called my name and he asked why I was acting so sketchy. and I told him he was acting sketchy and we got in an argument. (i dont care if he says no, its his card, I just wanted an answer yes or no, its not that hard to say).
I told people and they told me I was the one being selfish, and having bad social skills, and not seeing his feelings. I think people who know i have aspergers want me to have friends so desperately that they tell me to kiss someone's ass just to keep them as a friend when he was clearly being an as*hole.
whats you guys' take on this?
01 Jul 2011, 11:08 pm
