Aspies are a pain to talk to

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All the guys want to discuss is their yu-gi-oh collection or their score on kingdom hearts. If it's not something like that, they're not interested. Is it any wonder so many are unemployed? Oh what, do you plan on working in a video game discussion factory?

If I wanted to do that, why not just hang out in a gaming store all day. It's little things like this that get me doubting if I even have it. Yes, I had an irritating day. No, I don't expect you to care. Yes, I'm an ###hole, I just hide it. I go to these functions for people on the spectrum and the only guy I enjoy talking to is this fellow who likes sports trivia and little else. I don't even like sports, but he's so much more interesting and worldly, and at least it doesn't go back to PSP or anime. This is why I so badly would like to meet somebody on here in person. I'm not asking for a hoity toity cultured genius, but there IS a world outside of games. If games hadn't been invented, maybe they'd be a little more.... I don't know. I don't care, I need a smoke and a drink of water. Seriously, why does being on the spectrum also mean being horrendously immature?

This sounds a little mean.

But I know what you mean. I try my hardest to seem interested even when I am not, is it possible these people do not know they are boring you?

Believe me, I know. I'm not easy to talk to.

But, if you don't want to talk about games, then what do you want to talk about? Going to the mall and shopping for shoes?

Because NT guys are easy to talk to? - football, COD, meat-products, toilet humour.
Yeah, I say it's just guys who are a pain to talk to. Sorry gents x

I can't say I've noticed aspie boys having a certain like for games to be honest - but then I've not talked to many and don't go to the boards where such things might be discussed. I think with aspie boys their special interests seem more intense then you see with girl aspies - but again, this is based on my limited experience, and we're all different. Aspie boys in general are however a serious challenge to talk to...

You sound frustrated, honestly I think you're off the mark on this one they're not all into these sort of things and they're not all immature, it's just perhaps you've seen more of these than of others, perhaps consider too that more HF people on the spectrum may not use sites like this so you may find more of the members appear to be more immature than you in some ways.

I'm not interested in video games at all. I do talk about more than one thing, yes, I have a special interest, but I still talk about one than one thing. I will listen to other people talk about their interests, but I get bored of them extremely fast, I try to listen to be polite. One of the other problems is that I don't know a lot about things that I'm not interested in, so I have a hard time responding.

If someone is bored with what I am saying, I often just stop talking.

You should meet my husband. He is the most interesting person I've ever met. Actually I fell for him over a dinner after spending about 2 hours talking about different subjects. He is Aspie, but he does not even play videogames. Just chess in his computer.

I am frustrated. I'm caught between being socially impaired by autism, but not to the point of being unable to do anything outside of gaming and anime. I have nothing against these hobbies, as I was a big fan in high school, but I kinda grew up a little and want to branch out beyond that. After a weird "otaku" experience, I've come to realize the people who don't seem able to do much else will NEVER go beyond that, and don't want to. All fine and good, but then I run into the same thing at these meetings, and it seems a little wasteful to go off and dick around by ourselves on our gaming machines, when we only have 3 hours a pop to hang out with each other a month.

I DO know a few aspies who seems a little introverted and standoffish, but that's as bad as it gets with them. They can hold a conversation that doesn't keep going back to one or the other. I guess I'm taking my frustration about my life out on them. I was hoping these meetings would focus on struggles that related to autism- it kinda stands to reason. If you can't hold a job because spectrum characteristics make you an easy target, then why can't we support each other and speak up? If we can't make friends easily, why can't we speak with each other? Why do most of us act like we're in freaking day care? Hasn't life taught us hard in order to survive we have to hone our skills? Can't we help each other do that? I just don't see any point in hanging out and doing something we could do completely alone. It's bizarre to me how everything comes back to anime and video, especially YuGiOh. Is there anything morally wrong with it? No, but it's kinda like being enfatuated with Sesame Street.

It's like having a learning disability, so your college sends you to a study hall with people who supposedly have similar challenges, and you feel elated that you'll hopefully meet at least one person you can relate to, only to find out most of them can't count to four.

And I HAVE tried to meet them eye to eye, and show interest in their hobby. It soon becomes apparent that's ALL they like, and if you're not on the same level they lose interest in you. I am NOT making it my life. And if they want to, they're welcome to, but I get so irritated when 98% of them feel the need to be like that. Let's see, am I exaggerating? 98% is 1 in 50... nope, that sounds right.

But it's like I said. I'm seriously starting to doubt I have AS. I can be an ***hole, but you have to understand, I'm very confused and irritated. Yes I am frustrated as all Hell and I don't feel like sugar coating it. If you can relate, fine, if not, fine.

I play video games on occasion....and I like anime on occasion, but both get boring pretty quick. I do not watch t.v either. I am however addicted to music mostly metal and psychedelic rock. So yeah if someone was not into music they might not enjoy how often I am listening to it or how often I talk about it.

I used to be bad about the video game thing when I was still in school. Or the tendency to just be more interested in what I was thinking of. It didn't occur to me to be interested in what hobbies other people had. About all I started to figure out was I was fumbling at conversation and making friends so I just became a quiet kid.

After I got out on my own and moving from a rural to more of a city I found new worlds of music and film and books that I just absorbed. I still enjoyed gaming but it wasn't my only interest anymore. I'd become interested in a film director and what influenced or inspired them. Eventually getting curious about art and photography.

You don't have to talk to me if you don't like what I have to say.

I used to play video games ALOT. nowdays it's mainly surfing wrongplanet, facebook and tons of time on youtube listening to songs and watching some neat vids. And no I am a nice guy to talk to (i think) I just sometimes get distant or cold like when I get nervous and lose some Self Confidence. It happens.

@TeaEarl

Lol that's an awesome avatar!!

I'm not so addicted to video games, because I just got my PS3 back in February and I don't have two video games to play. I play every now and then, but it's hard to be addicted when you only have two entertaining (but not addicting) video games. Even though I have a Wii with a couple games on it, I've played the games quite a bit so I kinda got bored of them. I don't know, I guess I'm just not that interested in playing them...

As for anime, I'm really interested in it right now. It's been one of my main interests in the last 9 months. However, I really try my best to prevent myself from becoming an otaku/weaboo. As much as I'd like to explore the culture, I realize that there are other things in life to be interested in.

I can also see where you're coming from. I'm in a special ed program at my high school. The case managers (basically, the special ed teachers) expect to socialize with basically everyone I come across - that includes the other aspies in the program. At one point, I actually was so desperate for a social life that I actually tried to socialize with them. However, they all seem interested in Halo and overused memes from the internet. So I can totally see where you're coming from.

Thanks! ^_^

I just want to point out something. I actually have developmental and emotional problems that prevent me from being able to work. I'm not sure about others but for me, its too much if a challenge to be able to have a job. It causes great distress for me... so much that I would have too many nervous breakdowns. I have a wide range of delays that cause me any working ability.

Also, I've never really met an aspie who was like that. But I do love Kingdom Hearts. I have an Axel plushie I take with me everywhere I go for comfort reasons. I don't play games much as I used to though unless they are on the DSi but even then I lose interest in them very quickly. >_____<

Not all AS-people are infatuated with games, but it seems most are infatuated with something.
I like to play games on my PC, but not as much as I used to. I would like to have a console when I move out though.
Let's see, my infatuations are (in no particular order):

* Metallica
* Programming
* Politics
* Science
* Music in general
* Art

What I like to talk about varies, but my main problem with talking to other people has always centered around struggling to branch out from one topic to another, as well as formulating responses. I always felt I was a much more gifted writer than a speaker, and I'll probably always feel that way.
As for your frustration, I think I understand at least somewhat where you're coming from. I always had problems growing up (never had girlfriends, always hung with the same people, had learning disabilities etc), which caused me to gain an almost insatiable need for fame and fortune which I've had to this day.
I wanted to be a game-programmer, but eventually found that my math-skills were sorely lacking. I wanted to work for Disney, but I've more or less come to realize that my talents as an artist aren't up to par (though I'll always have drawing and painting as a hobby).
Eventually I've more or less come to settle with the idea of studying journalism and becoming a writer for newspapers. Hopefully eventually I'll get to branch out and travel abroad, as I love travelling. I don't think I'd mind working as a TV-reporter either. But writing was always one of my strong suits, so that's probably where I'm the most useful. I'd also like to publish a book some day (in fact, I'm working on one right now that I'd like to try to finish before the summer's over).

aspies are a pain to talk to because, no offence, most of us don't want to talk.

i've just met you and i don't want to talk to you already. one way that i accomplish not talking to people who persist in ignoring my 'go away' signals is by boring them into leaving.

not sure if that's what's happening to you, but for what it's worth, it's a very effective technique for getting rid of people.