Do you have some social anxiety?

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You know, the feeling you won't know what to say, or you'll feel awkward, or you don't wanna feel judged? Everybody feels this sometimes, but do you feel it more frequently than most?

I feel that way when I have to confront another person about something, so I just don't do it at all.

Family & others said I'm shy & nervous sense I was extremely little & they still say that about me. I was diagnosed with social anxiety along with other anxiety disorders

Absolutely I did. Social anxieties and other anxieties for 2 years+, of which the remnants still exist.

I have social anxiety. I always get bad anxiety when there is a lot going on. I also have social anxiety when I'm going shopping like grocery shopping because there are so many people around at the store and to much going on at the store and a lot of loud noises at the store when I go grocery shopping and shopping and general. I am really sensitive to loud noises and bright lights so that always really makes me have bad anxiety when I'm in public.

Yes I do. I can be happy out in public as long as my interactions with others is minimal. It's when I have to get involved with other people & actually talk to them & stuff that creates intense anxiety for me. I just don't have the necessary social skills to be comfortable (pretending to be happy to be there) around crowds of people in a social situation. These include parties, wedding, funerals, birthdays, etc.

I think I have pretty bad social anxiety, aye.

No, I have all of it, xd.

My social anxiety is very limited. I have a total inability to approach people, but aside from that, I'm not afraid of interacting with people or embarrassing myself in social situations. If I'm in a restaurant, I have no problem being around so many other people. I have no problem giving my order, because someone asked me for it. I have no problem speaking to a total stranger at a nearby table if he decides to strike up a conversation. (At least if it's not small talk and he's discussing something specific.) Even if I spill a drink on my crotch in front of 30 people, I won't be any more embarrassed than anyone else would be. But if someone gets my order wrong, there's no way in hell I'm going to speak up.

This is the social anxiety that's kept me seeing a psychologist for several years, because it's made getting a job completely impossible. You have to approach people to get a job, and it's so bad for me that I can't even call a business on the phone and ask if they're hiring. I was misdiagnosed with generalized social anxiety disorder for so long, which I knew was wrong because I always had to explain how narrow my anxiety is. My last psychologist diagnosed me with Asperger's after I also explained a huge list of other traits I had that are so common with AS (sensitivity to sound, disdain for small talk, lack of eye contact, communication difficulties, obsessive interests, clumsiness, set habits) that I'm surprised nobody had said anything sooner. Still, it's the social anxiety keeping me from working, not the AS.

EDIT:I'm re-thinking that last sentence. Approaching people to get a job in the first place is my problem right now, but once I find myself with a job, AS becomes the problem. Having completely inept social skills doesn't help. I've been told by more than one manager that I had an attitude problem when I had no clue what it was that I was saying or doing that made them feel that way, and I walked out of one job after three days half because of my frustration with my inability to communicate with anyone and half because of my inability to follow instructions. But I have to take things one step at a time, and social anxiety is the Step 1 problem.

Last edited by Jory on 17 Jun 2011, 11:37 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I used to be bad but I'm pretty much cured now. Guys, gals, trannies...whatever!

I don't know exactly how much other people feel this so I don't feel like I can answer the question.

With people in higher positions than me at work.... specially those that'd be judging my work

Yes. But mostly because I am afraid of saying the wrong thing or coming off as stupid, plus I don't know what to say or how to handle things or say things. I also hate confrontations but lot of people do anyway.

For a while I just thought it was shyness. But then I realized it's something else.

I think I definitely have social anxiety, often I find myself not being able to ask something to someone I don't know that well.
Also in Gym class I will never yell for someone to pass me a ball or something like that. I also feel very insecure when talking to people except for maybe my parents.

my social anxiety is so bad that my psychiatrist says that I have social anxiety disorder in addition to suffering from aspergers syndrome. I know that a lot of people even a lot of people not on the spectrum have it I just seem to have it so much more often and more intense that I end up having anxiety about my anxiety. Does anyone here have this or have suggestions for how to at least help mitigate the anxiety I have about my anxieties.

I know how this feeling works and tend to feel this way a lot. It feels like someone is always looking over your shoulder or is always examining how you behave. I know that it is natural to want to observe how people act it passing but it still bothers me and prevents me from being able to understand why people are watching or why it occurs. I guess though that my question for you CaptainTrips222 is do you have a question beyond do people experience this feeling which if that is your only question then I would say everyone knows and feels this feeling it just does not bother some people because they are not concerned about it or have learned methods to deal with and handle their concerns.