Convention mates giving me place to sleep..that's it!

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For the past three cons that I attend every year at this time of the year I have been crashing with someone who I met at a fan track a number of years ago. They usually stay their with their family and two other friends.

Although I crash in room I have picked up on a few things

1. They often have lots of food and drinks in the room but have never offered me any ( I often bring my own food. This year I bought things to contribute to the room and they didn't really acknowledge or say thank you).
2. I only see them once a year and whenever I have set up looking at their electronic devices is more important
3. They have never seemed to invite me to any panels or events during the con
4. They don't call me during the rest of the year to see how I am doing
5. Not once was I invited out to dinner with them
6. They stick together in their little group

I would like to know your input. Should I mention this to them and if so what should I say?

I wouldn't. They are perfectly within their rights to behave that way, and they're already being very kind in letting you crash there.

I don't mind if they're generous enough to let me sleep on their floor. That is not the issue. What I would really like is if we got to know each other during con. Instead they care more about their stupid smart phones and the content that is on them.

Offer them some of your food. Maybe, with their permission, cook them something.

Tell them you like their company. Don't try to force the issue as far as their clique is concerned.

I bought a set of things for myself to eat and a separate set of items for them. I didn't really get an "Thank you" from them.

As for next year, I would like to try aiming at saving up to get a room to myself for next year. After all I have the whole year to save up.

In regards to inviting them out I will look at inviting them to join me for dinner somewhere as a way of saying thank you.