when people put you on the spot/ publicly make fun of you

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So, despite being pretty well-integrated into society (if I do say so myself), there are certain types of people I can't STAND.

I don't know if any of you have had to deal with this, but it drives me up the wall when people nag me with a sarcastic tone, almost taunting me. I was at a friend's the other night and this kid was there, he asked me, "how long is your hair? why don't you wear it down?" and when I told him I didn't feel like taking it down because it would mean making an effort and it was raining, he said, "no! come on! that's just an excuse! you shouldn't be ashamed of your hair!" (I mean wtf? It's not like i AM ashamed of my hair...)

He only stopped when his girlfriend told him to leave me alone. But still, he was doing stuff like this all night, using peer pressure at times. There was another kid who was making sexually inappropriate comments about one of my friends ("i wouldn't mind being alone with her - WHAT WHAT") and he was totally seeking attention. Please take note that I am NOT friends with these people, they were merely invading a close friend's party...

This kind of behavior pisses me off. I'd like to think I have a pretty healthy sense of humor that doesn't involve making fun of other people - if anything, I make fun of myself/whatever ridiculous situation is occurring. I don't see the point of nagging other people, it drives me insane. To be honest, these situations are the ones where I don't know what to do, don't know how to respond. What do you do, does anyone know how people are expected to respond if they want to discourage such behavior without embarrassing themselves?

Also, I'd like to add that he commented that I look stoned in a facebook photo, with an intended humorous tone. I'M FRIENDS WITH RELATIVES AND CO-WORKERS AND DON'T WANT THEM ASSOCIATING ME WITH THESE ACTIVITIES WHETHER THEY HAPPEN OR NOT. Granted, he took the comment down before i got around to untagging myself, but WHAT THE f**k. I'M NOT EVEN FRIENDS WITH THIS KID. I wish he'd leave me alone.

Well, it just goes to prove something I've been saying for years (hear me gloat)...

Aspies aren't the only ones with social issues. I wish people in general would get that message around instead of spending their time trying to find names for us so they can feel superior. If all people "got it" except for people with AS, there wouldn't be much for the average sitcom to draw from.

People who make themselves too familiar are particularly irritating, and people who assume things they don't know so as to sound wise (or for any reason) are just about the most maddening people around. These nonverbal social cues so many people supposedly pick up naturally are either a myth or greatly exaggerated in my opinion... People such as you describe are evidence of the fact. Not everyone who is NT reads others perfectly.

Depends.....
if my uncle makes fun of me, I hit him
my sisters, I tap them and get in trouble
People I know in school (before) but annoyed me....make up a good comeback
When I can't think of a good comeback, laugh it off

Though there is a difference between joking and harassment, I don't know where it is, and maybe you do, so if you do, then so something about it I guess

Like I always say I was born with a high verbal IQ and I am not afraid to use it. Talk s**t back to them if you don't know the guy who cares if he thinks your a dick as long as you get your verbal digs in. If you can't fight back verbally ignore them if you can't ignore them then leave or take the abuse.

If someone treats me like s**t and I do not know them and I think I can take them I will follow them around all night until I can catch them alone so I can tool them up. Even if I do not fight them I will follow them around anyways. When they see you give them a pissed off look like your going to do something but don't say or do anything to them. I had a guy call the cops on me at a fireworks display. All the cops did to me was asked me if I was following him around so I said no so they said fine and left. The guy was smart enough to stay with the crowd when he relised I was following him but I can assure you he did not enjoy his stay there as much as I did ruining his night. I hope I gave that bully coward nightmares.

I don't know how many times I have said that about someone's photo or someone has said that about some of mine.

I would have said thats the look that was one my face when I relized that you are one of my friends. If I saw someone get upset over a comment like that I would think -

A) They are an as*hole who can't ignore some little punk.

OR

B) He/She must really be on drugs and they don't like their filthy addiction to be exposed. Because someone does not get upset over a comment unless there is some truth to it.

If you ignore it or put a rolling eyes emoticon next to it like they are blowing off the comment.

I just try to fight back with arrogance, and point out how ridiculously irrelevant and immature their behavior is... an eye for an eye... but i try to be nice to everyone i know, but sometimes there are people who pick on you.... and you've got to know what to say at any situation...

Unfortunately, this kind of behavior seems extremely popular with 20-somethings for whatever reason. It is really disappointing that this is the way what seems like a majority of my so-called 'peer group' interacts... by giving each other a hard time for no reason, having jokes that revolve around sex and drugs, etc. Most of it to me just comes off as rude and unintelligent to me.

One thing I have realized is that a lot of this teasing sort of behavior is supposed to be kind of playful I think... so I would try not to take things someone like this says too personally... maybe he wasn't trying to be mean/rude? I try to at least tolerate this sort of stuff a little bit but it annoys me quite a bit too. When I think someone has gone too far I will usually just try to get away from them and not really give them any of my attention. Sometimes I just point out how immature/rude they are being, though that usually ends up making me look like the rude one for some reason.