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minervx
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08 Nov 2011, 10:42 am

I certainly do.

Anyone else here?

How do you balance out those two different perspectives on socializing?



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08 Nov 2011, 11:02 am

Sometimes I feel 1% normal, regardless of the labels.



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08 Nov 2011, 11:05 am

Everybody is different and you have to do what works for you. I still haven't got it right, but it's a very good feeling when you can be yourself around someone and they don't respond negatively.



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08 Nov 2011, 11:42 am

Perhaps 0.5% Aspie, 0.5% NT and 99% out of this world.


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08 Nov 2011, 11:50 am

My psychologist said I have aspects of Asperger's, avoidant personality disorder and social phobia. I think that might be 33% Aspie and 66% broken NT. I interact with people who are interesting and treat me with respect and cut short the rest. I like what Face of Boo, Mack 27 and TenPencePiece said.



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08 Nov 2011, 11:53 am

Sometimes I feel too articulate and extroverted to be an aspie, but I don't feel NT, either. In fact, most of the time, it just hurts too much to be around NTs. I can only handle them in small doses.


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08 Nov 2011, 11:54 am

justkillingtime wrote:
My psychologist said I have aspects of Asperger's, avoidant personality disorder and social phobia. I think that might be 33% Aspie and 66% broken NT. .


Pretty similar to me. I don't know how I feel exactly.


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08 Nov 2011, 12:52 pm

There are some aspects to AS that I do have but to such a mild degree that it doesn't lead to meltdown or necessitate rocking or flapping. They just make me very very tired. I just ran 1 errand and now I want to take a nap.


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08 Nov 2011, 2:52 pm

I most certainly think like an aspie but I'm able to blend in (I think?) fairly well into the NT social lifestyle. Learning social skills for us is just like learning a foreign language. You can learn the required "vocabulary" to get by, but understanding the subtleties of social situations takes first hand experience.



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08 Nov 2011, 3:09 pm

When I'm alone I feel normal. When I'm around people I know I'm fine. When I'm around other people, I realize that I must be at least somewhat aspieish.


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08 Nov 2011, 3:30 pm

According to the standard diagnostic criteria I must be fairly mild. I'm still lightyears from feeling anywhere near "normal" or "average" though. Even if I was labeled non-autistic I'd probably still be a somewhat asocial and a broodingly analytical introvert. I could probably fit in okay with NT's with a similar mindset but such is exceedingly rare.



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08 Nov 2011, 4:20 pm

During the past 5 or so years, once I moved out of my rural hometown and the people who I grew up with who have seen me as obviously "aspie", I feel I have become much less likely to identify myself as such because I have gained skills that have enabled me to see the world in a more NT-like lens.

Even at my worst moments, I feel as though my impairments are not due to social and communicative differences, but due to poor emotional management and panic/anxiety symptoms. I don't know whether it is possible for AS to morph into a related disorder, but it definitely seems that way in my case.


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My diagnoses - social anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder.

I’m no longer involved with the ASD world.


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08 Nov 2011, 10:58 pm

Yeah I do, there are things about me that are fairly NT. According to that extensive aspergers/NT test, I had both aspie and NT traits. I have NT hunting and perception and I have aspie social and talent.



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09 Nov 2011, 12:35 am

I feel half aspie and half NT so I say I am a borspie. I feel I am in between two worlds. Plus I do slip on and off the AS criteria but I should ask my mother next time about how often do I meet it. Or maybe ask my own husband that since he sees it all the time. Even he has noticed mine come and go and he has described it like it's like a slide because I get worse and then better and worse and better. It's like I go up and down the slide and he doesn't know when I am going to react to change or when I am going to be obsessed with next. Then other times I get extremely upset. It's like a roller coaster for the both of us except I am not very aware of it. I feel normal most of the time but yet I still don't feel like everyone else. I feel too normal to be an aspie and too aspie to be NT.



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09 Nov 2011, 5:08 am

I have no idea what I feel like. :?



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09 Nov 2011, 10:19 pm

I'm still at 100% aspie, although I never think about it really. I just use my aspie traits to acquire the NTs social traints and to understand how they think and respond. I'm still overwhelmingly analytical, and if need be I can always turn "off" the acquired NT traits and social skills, in order to use my aspie traits to their fullest.

But regardless of all the labels, I still feel I am just me and I am very happy with what I am capable of doing.