What am I doing wrong?

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Just about every social encounter causes problems I dont know why.
My brief history. Im almost 55, I was diagnosed w HFA as a child, mainstream school no help in school except lots of testing, Jobs I did retail for years and was ok but people got mad at me because I don't recognize faces very well. I joined the military and did ok but was asked how I was allowed in. I lasted many years but had some injuries and disabled.
Anyway thats the very brief version
but I get bullied so much
I go to places and the worst recent was a woman walked past I said hello because she was staring at me and she said
"die" to me and kept walking.
I wish I could figure this out, seems worse the older I get and the less interactions I have to have with others, like I am out of practice.

I think you did very well for yourself being in the military for many years. That's quite an accomplishment for anyone. Thank you for your service.

As for the nasty woman you encountered, I would have maybe handled it differently, probably by staring back with a mocking smile on my face, and if I were feeling especially bold, I might even wave at her.
If I were to say "hello" to her, it would have been in a strong voice and with maybe a silly accent, on purpose.

I don't particularly recommend that as good advice for anyone. Yes, sometimes a bully will back down when I act annoying like that, but nowadays, people are becoming dangerous.

In some cases, it's wise to ignore the person. I can't tell you for sure, because
what it gets down to is, you really have to trust your gut feeling and intuition.

As an Aspie, I seem to have strong gut feeling and intuition,
even if I can't figure out humanity.
(Yeah, I know that seems like a weird contradiction ...)

Anyways, I'm sorry that you find yourself having to deal with mean people.
I hope things get better for you. And you can write to me if you like.
I'm female and about your age.

~~ the phoenix

Thank you Phoenix, I am in a self pity mode unfortunately. People are all mean now adays anyways. I usually ignore jerky people but sometimes don't. I don't like myself when I snap back so I try not to react.
Yes I will write.