Ovecoming the Awkwardness

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I was diagnosed with Asperger's when I was 15 and have had to deal with it all my life. I'm at the point in my life where I can't stand it. Whenever I'm around people I feel scared, a lone, lost, confused (when people talk to me) and just want to run. What I would like to know is how to over come it. It's gotten to the point where I avoid as much uman contact as possible and feel like crap when I do. Please any advice or thoughts would greatly be appreciated.

It helps not to give a crap. There's no sense in trying to do something that is impossible.

In my mind nothing is impossible, it may be hard, and you may need help from others, but I think you can do it. It's like a hard puzzle, you may want to quit and say "SCREW THIS!" because you are having a hard time, but in time with persistence and maybe a little help from someone else you can overcome it or at least turn it in your favour. Don't lose heart! I know, I am finally overcoming so many of my problems and it is glorious.

I will send you a PM on this matter.

Being someone that I am not is impossible. It doesn't matter how much help there is, it's still a losing battle. The only way to somewhat win a battle against impossible odds is to surrender before it starts. I have accepted that there are some things I'll never be able to do as well as an NT, but I'm not going to let that hold me back. If other people can't understand that, then screw them. That's their problem, not mine. I spent the past 17 years doing the best I could, but that was never good enough. I've given up. I am an aspie. I can't hide that, so why shouldn't I stop trying to and just be myself?

It helps to find people who will accept you for you. Often, for myself and for the people on the spectrum I know, being around others who are non-judgemental and accepting of your quirks will help you become comfortable in your own skin. I think that for you, the main issue is that you feel anxious around others, and I was the same way for the longest time...being around others with disablities really helped as they are truly the most non-judgemental people around.

I second this statement! When I'm with people who expect me to be better or different from what I normally am, or am comfortable with, I revert to being nervous and babbling and generally all of my worst traits from their perspective get piled higher. When I'm lucky enough to come across someone who says, "Yeah, she's quirky, but that's what makes her great!" or "She's weird, but she's ours!" I relax more and blend in better. Or at least I think I do - it's hard to tell when you're around who don't usually comment when you're being odd. At the very least, I feel happier around them.

I can also confirm this.