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Linguophile
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14 Aug 2011, 2:40 am

I am starting my second year of college on Monday and I still have no friends. I have a single dorm because I cant take having a roommate. In the summer program last year I was the only person on my floor and in the regular year I was in an outside apartment dorm that was full of athletes. so this coming year will be the first time I am in an inside dorm with other people right next door to me. My weekends and Friday nights are always so boring and lonely just like right now. Everyone else has friends and no one is ever on on facebook and most of the time they don't even reply. It's so lonely. I have a feeling this year may be the same im so scared. anyways here I would like some aspie friends so if you want my facebook just pm me because i cant post it on here because i havent been here at least 5 days



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14 Aug 2011, 5:52 am

hiya Linguophile, welcome to our club :)
i know what it is like to be alone and unpopular, though i've had way more time to get used to it.



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14 Aug 2011, 6:29 am

Linguophile wrote:
I am starting my second year of college on Monday and I still have no friends. I have a single dorm because I cant take having a roommate. In the summer program last year I was the only person on my floor and in the regular year I was in an outside apartment dorm that was full of athletes. so this coming year will be the first time I am in an inside dorm with other people right next door to me. My weekends and Friday nights are always so boring and lonely just like right now. Everyone else has friends and no one is ever on on facebook and most of the time they don't even reply. It's so lonely. I have a feeling this year may be the same im so scared. anyways here I would like some aspie friends so if you want my facebook just pm me because i cant post it on here because i havent been here at least 5 days


I don't use facebook because of that same reason. I know I will be making an effort to get myself out there, and will realise no results as a result. :oops: i do think that you need to make an effort in real life though. i can tell you from my own experiences that no one is gonna make an effort to find you as a friend especially if you're someone who doesn't go out. you have to mingle a little and then perhaps people will be drawn to you for whatever reasons. :) good luck i know how painful isolation can be.



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14 Aug 2011, 7:40 am

i only use facebook as a memory-aid for the birthdays and special events my aquantences have...

to get friends, unfortunately there is only one way to get them: go out and look.
the best way is to find a hobby; larger universities have a club for just about any hobby you can think of, so do a googlesearch for the combination of your selected hobby and the university name, you'd find a group for it.
then, it's just a matter of getting yourself to go there, the very first meeting of the year is a perfect moment as there are several new guys joining then, making the existing members more open, and giving you 2 topics with the other newbies there: the hobby and the fact that you are new.



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14 Aug 2011, 2:26 pm

Hi Linguophile, welcome aboard! :)

I don't have a Facebook account, but if you want to exchange PM's here feel free to send me one.


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14 Aug 2011, 4:00 pm

I second the suggestion to look for clubs and groups. As well, do a search in your area for aspergers groups...try searching through meetup.com.


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