Usually pleasant people that turn hostile?

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Um, I hope you don't mind that I have posted something similar elsewhere on the Internet. What I describe below is partly based on my own experiences.

What personality traits that a person has might cause usually pleasant people to turn hostile towards him/her? These people belong to the majority and they might not necessarily know one another.

Elaboration...

1. They outcast him/her.
2. They scream at him/her.
3. They ignore everything he/she says.
4. They tell him/her in his/her face that they are eager to see he/she fail.
5. They tell their friends in his/her presence that they get angry whenever they see him/her.

I'm never really hostile normally, I'm generally chill and peaceful. I can think of a time recently when I attacked my friend and threw my wii at my wall. It was because I was extremely intoxicated though and he started arguing and I misinterpered it. Which is still odd, he was just joking, he was repeatly saying something about the game I was playing that I disagreed with.

We as human beings all have our breaking point, sore spot, buttons, etc... Mine was someone deliberately hurting me. Saying something that could not be interpreted as funny, sarcastic, or remotely friendly. Evena friend, will do this sometimes, and I warn them. If they continue after the first warning, I don't give them another chance. I just rant about all the things I have thought that was wrong with them, even if I don't really think that way anymore.

Usually what happens, I have these sickening sweet women crawling up my spine like fake nails. When Im new to them, their nice to me, there all like "whats wrong". Then they soon realize, Im just like that, then I get on their hit list.

Whats wrong?, well there will be something wrong if you judge me like that.

Oh hey i'm nazi,fascist and hate all human beings(or near) and guess what? others are the cause so i'm not the cause...others are!

I would think that harsh, hostile, overtly critical and demanding personalities would cause otherwise friendly people that associate with them to turn against them. Basically...people who are confrontational and are bent on starting conflict or fights...or perhaps even unnecessarily dong so.

Wow, I don't think anybody has actually addressed the question you asked.

It seems like you want to know what brings the worst out in otherwise pleasant people. I don't know! If I had to guess, one thing that sets people off is a lack of self confidence. Also, if they get the misconception they can push you around, things can quickly get ugly. If you have low status in a group setting, people sometimes take advantage of that, perhaps not even realizing they do it. In my opinion, if people resort to behaving like this when it's convenient, then they aren't really pleasant.

I hope F'nord finds this thread. He seems to have a lot of human insight, and can really put it down to words.

They love it. They eat it up. Then, when you can't take anymore and you let them have it (more than they can handle and a much wider audience) they huddle together and whine and simply label the person they've tormented and turned hostile as a lunatic, case closed. No matter what the situation is, case is closed. Groups like to stick together out of fear, and the odd man or woman out, really is just that. They say, oh how sad this loser is. How very sad that we pushed them over the edge, let's have a laugh and a pint on that one - that crazy foolish loser. THIS is real life.

Think of Columbine. No matter what the case these kids were wrong, same with VA Tech... but it didn't happen out of nowhere. I can understand turning hostile, it's from not having a voice. The have nots.

You want to be a part, but for some reason you just can't find a way to be included. Maybe it's something that's hanging up your life. You're locked out of the group but kept around to be trashed. Over time, you realize you never were a part of the group just trash. but they're still digging into your sore spots laughing and slicing without any shame or humility. Yea, things can turn.

Right, but who would be pleasant being made the butt of every joke (inside or out) for an entire lifetime? Not included by the whole... is that a pleasant experience?

You misunderstood me, but never mind.

To CaptainTrips222: I appreciate your reply. (Someone once told me that dogs can smell fear. Maybe people detect low self-confidence the same way as dogs smell fear?)

Oh, sorry.