detaching yourself from other peoples problems

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i've personally realized the dangers of getting to involved in other people's problems.

and in many situations, i feel, its important to keep a distance:
1. if its a person you don't know in real life or isn't present in your life much or aren't close to.
2. it is a difficult situation that can put you in harm's way or require you to sacrifice a lot.

especially if its a client, or someone you are only to relating to for a specific purpose.

in my opinion, i feel that a person is ultimately the person who has most power over themselves and they are the ones who have to make the decisions. there is a very limited amount of impact a friend could have in many circumstances.

if the person is close to me, and the situation could be dangerous, i approach it in a balanced manner. i would offer a limited amount of help, of course only when they ask it, but i would be sucked into it because i have my own problems to worry about.

your thoughts and experiences on the subject?

I'd say what you just typed is pretty accurate.

My problems are not other people's problems, and vice-versa. If they want to help me, fine, but I feel no obligation towards them.

yeah, i agree bat of zion.

Yes, involving yourself in the lives of another person always entails a risk. That Chinese saying about becoming responsible for someone whose life you save? It's way deeper than it sounds when you read it at first.