Needing Help Please

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I'm lonely, lonely like tearing me apart lonely, trying to stay sane lonely, barely holding on lonely. My roommates phone keeps going off in the background. Been months since anyone other than her has texted or called me. Been that way for a long time now. I try and meet people but when I do I don't understand what to say. I'm not shy, I'm not anxious, I'm not self-censoring, I just draw a blank. With strangers, with family, with the people I've worked with more than a year, with people I see every day. Every time. Help. Please.

Are there any social activities you can find related to any of your special interests?

Then, instead of having nothing to say, we have far too much and need to let the NTs talk.

Hello, my son is 14, he got a phone for his birthday about three years ago and so far has only had texts msg's from me (his mum) and no phone calls.

He won't join any clubs even if it is something related to his special interests. He finds school a nightmare and always sits in the canteen by himself, sometimes boys move away from his table so they don't have to sit with him. He's a lovely boy but has no small talk or boyish banter, he just can't cope with these situations.

Well, I'm not being much help but at least you know you are not alone in being alone. I hope things will improve for you.

You are probably out of practice and/or depressed. I went a few years basically living like a hermit and hardly talking.

When I got a job, sure, talking really sucked at first, but since I was forced to talk I got into practice again. Living with family or friends you are very comfortable with also helps keep you in practice.

So try to get into situations that you will need to talk in and preferably with people you are comfortable talking to. Maybe it's a deeper problem, but honestly, you may get better just by trying.

He doesn't like anything sporty and won't even join a chess club. He seems to like being at home more than anything else,

He does have one friend who visits occasionally. This friend is always really cheerful and never stops talking. He doesn't seem to notice that my son never really says much!

It sounds like you have communication deficits that can be worked on and practiced on a regular basis. I would then find a low key type of a club of your choice that interests you where you can apply those practiced skills.

Ways to get a conversations started:

1) Keep your head up and smile
2) Shake their hands and tell them your name
3) Ask them about their interests and why they are at the club/ group/etc.
4) Let them ask you and then respond slowly

An Asperger/Autism Support group might be good for you to get out there and meet people as that was a great place for me to find others that I could relate to.

Sad to know that....