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Do you like your family? I'm disliking mine more and more everyday.

I felt the same way about my family when I was your age. I would always go downtown on a Saturday just to get away from them and when I was at home, I spent all of my time in my room.

Well, wider society tells us that we should love our families more than anything, that "blood is thicker than water," but I find it hard to justify such love for the 4 people I live with. They all pretty much treat me like a slave boy, while not sharing in the benefits. I feel a large amount of guilt for having my own life, for being a slightly-rebellious geek when all the rest of them are slaves to capitalism, drooling over football players like they are teen heartthrobs. I spend every day constantly worrying about my 72-year old dad, whose health is on the edge constantly My little sister hates me for being a geek while she pretty much expects me to watch her 13 month old toddler. I would far rather live in Stalin's Russia or Kim Jong-il's North Korea than live under this roof. Thank God that I am within 1 year of graduating from college, or I would put a bullet through my skull. It's that unbearable. I just don't feel like I can grow.

And, much to my family's chagrin, I spend most of my time in my room on my computer or watching anime. Transit is so limited here in Boise, Idaho that I just stay at home. Not that I want to.

As far as i am concerned family is bond, not blood.

I do now... but I spent two years out of contact not too long ago.

And, also, families are an attempt to keep you indebted to them when all you want is to mind your own business. Family is basically legalized slavery.

Thanks for the replies. A lot of bad luck has been hitting the family lately, and everyone’s just been miserable, well, more miserable than usual . My brother insulted me on the Sunday and I had to keep eveything together until I got home, since it was my niece's birthday and I didn't want to ruin eveything

I agree. If you're the odd one out, then it's like you have to prove your worth a million times more than a 'normal' relative would have to.

Everybody says it's a young thing, and in your case, maybe it is. But I'm in my early 30's, and sadly, I have a deep disdain for members of my family. Apparently, if my image doesn't match to their idea of who I am, there's no limit to how they act or what words spill out of their teeth. They enjoy releasing the useless extra stress they put on my mind....

One of the things that I want to feel empathy towards someone for is a bad family. Everyone has trouble with their families at some point in their life, but no one should have an abusive environment at home.

The best thing I have in my life and am thankful for is my large, loving family, who stood by me as I went through the court system and sent me letters as I spent time in jail. I have something like over 25 aunts & uncles, and while there are those I don't get much contact with, I do so love how large a family I have...

I'm not sure, but I feel as if the key to a good relationship is distance. By not having to deal with each other's daily nuances, bonds can be created that draw each person closer as the time spent together is spent focusing on the good instead of the bad. After my parents divorced and I went to live with my mom, I grew closer with my dad than we used to be. I'm told by my half-sister the same thing happened when my dad and her mom got their divorce.

Wow, that's cool.

My family isn't physically abusive, they're mentally even if they don't understand what they're doing. I've seen evidence of the contrary though. People think I'm a smug jerk to think this way, but they don't walk in my shoes. They have no idea... I've never felt comfortable with any one group of people, and that's a very tough thing to deal with.

I miss my family in the way that we were still somewhat close about 45 years ago, and I had no real idea how odd my behavior seemed to others.

Nowadays, we are scattered around the world, and may never gather in one place ever again.

Maybe that's for the best, given the way they abandoned me when I needed them the most, but I still miss them.

Its a mixed bag, my families supportive but their annoying to live with. Right now I dont have an option right now. I'll move out eventually, just not entirely sure when. Im in the stage where I want to be an adult but parents still nag and have all their particularities. I have to work around their schedules, etc. I liked it back in college, I didnt have to work around another person constantly and thats the way I like it.

I dont relate to any of them at all...

I consider my friends much closer... and just as if not more valuable in my life...