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If you get someones number and you call then and they never call back does that mean they dont want to be your friend?

all my "friends" hang out with each other all the time and most dont even talk to me , and the 1 that does call me is always hanging out with her friends every day.

i see her 1 time a week or 1 time a month.

I feel i am missing something, I feel like all these people are just to nice to say they dont want to hang out with me. and the 1 that does hang out is more like an aquentince.

I have no one to hang out with i have no best friend.

I feel i am uncompilable with everyone. they want to go drinking , sleeping around, do drugs, and the only people that i know that aren't like that are far away.

I wish i had friends!! ! i mean no one even noticed i was gone from here for a year.

no one likes me except my boyfriend. and i love him. we are getting engaged soon so that is wonderful. but he is the only one who cares.....

In my experience, people who don't call often probably don't have a huge problem with you otherwise they wouldn't call at all. There might be something missing. You complained about friends not sharing the same interests. They probably sense you're not exactly like them. If you don't like what they're doing, then it seems like they're not your friends even if they do like you.

I need to find nice friends who actually care about me, who have similar interests.

it just sucks having no friends and it seems like everyone in Florida is messed up. the one decent friend i used to have was from main, but she changes into everyone else.

it makes me very depressed.

Thats how it goes. When you have autism you can't be a part of these superficial, fake friendships that NTs partake in. You can have real friends though. Who the hell would want superficial friends anyway? To get real friends its a matter of what you can provide for your friends. Thats how I see it anyway. Being on the spectrum, you have a unique perspective so if nothing else, you can provide that. Look out for people that you like/respect. When you spot them start imaging yourself hanging around with them. Sooner or later you'll notice you've befriended them. This is how it works for me. I've moved house plenty of times so I've had to make new friends every time.

EDIT: You say you need friends that actually care about you. I know what you mean. Like I said its a matter of how you deal with them. One guy (who happens to be my best friend now) I decided to befriend cuz hes highly interested in my obsession so I became friends with him but I noticed he was nowhere near as loyal as I was. In situations where it can be either one of us or both of us that takes the blame for a mistake, if the focus was on me, I'd just take all the blame so its only one of us. Conversely, when the focus was on him, he'd try and put the blame on me. Obviously I wouldn't wanna be friends with a disloyal f****r like that but hes changed completely, nowadays he has the same "in it together" mentality that I have. If you're real loyal to someone who you consider a friend, sooner or later they'll start displaying the same level of loyalty. If they don't, f**k them, they're not worthy of being your friend. Thats how I see it. Loyalty is everything.