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29 Sep 2011, 10:37 am

I only ever try to interact with women but this makes the women think I am either into them or that I am gay or that something must be wrong with me. I only want female friends because I can't stand the company of men. I'm not gay or anything but people tend to make assumptions. Since I am going to art school in a few days I was wondering whether I could get some advice on making friends with some of the girls there and how to make it clear that I am not after their kitty...

On the other hand if I fall in love with another girl there or am attracted to someone how do I make it clear I don't want to be friends but more?

I don't know how to draw the line.

Also why do girls call me a creep when I invite them over to my place for drinks? It's cheaper than going to a bar where a drink costs like 9 bucks when you could have a bottle for that price... Can't I invite someone over to my place to make friends? Do they really need to make assumptions?


NB: Please note that I don't have anything against men, I just don't want them as friends.



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29 Sep 2011, 10:51 am

I think most men are gross and dumb, too.

But not all of them.

If you want to have someone over for drinks - invite more than one person, that way it will seem less like you're a spider luring her into your web, and more like you just want a friendly chat with friends.

Or you could invite them over not for "drinks" because it is possible that to them that means "I want to get you coma-tised"



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29 Sep 2011, 11:02 am

hale_bopp wrote:
I think most men are gross and dumb, too.

But not all of them.

If you want to have someone over for drinks - invite more than one person, that way it will seem less like you're a spider luring her into your web, and more like you just want a friendly chat with friends.

Or you could invite them over not for "drinks" because it is possible that to them that means "I want to get you coma-tised"


Yeah, not all men of course but most guys my age, in their early twenties that is... Uh...

My place is very small I can only invite two people at once because my place is so small and I only own three chairs anyway.



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29 Sep 2011, 11:07 am

hale_bopp wrote:
I think most men are gross and dumb, too.



The woman in your avatar looks very brilliant though.



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29 Sep 2011, 11:08 am

OldFashioned wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
I think most men are gross and dumb, too.

But not all of them.

If you want to have someone over for drinks - invite more than one person, that way it will seem less like you're a spider luring her into your web, and more like you just want a friendly chat with friends.

Or you could invite them over not for "drinks" because it is possible that to them that means "I want to get you coma-tised"


Yeah, not all men of course but most guys my age, in their early twenties that is... Uh...

My place is very small I can only invite two people at once because my place is so small and I only own three chairs anyway.


Do you just live in a room? That might be why it's seen as a bit odd.. they probably can't see how sitting in a room drinking is more fun than going out somewhere.

Are there no pubs or places that aren't obnoxiously loud all the time? OR cafes?



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29 Sep 2011, 11:14 am

Use windows explorer to open link:

http://www.mefeedia.com/watch/30027811

I certainly hope I'm not a "worthless sack of stew meat". :lol:


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29 Sep 2011, 11:15 am

hale_bopp wrote:
OldFashioned wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
I think most men are gross and dumb, too.

But not all of them.

If you want to have someone over for drinks - invite more than one person, that way it will seem less like you're a spider luring her into your web, and more like you just want a friendly chat with friends.

Or you could invite them over not for "drinks" because it is possible that to them that means "I want to get you coma-tised"


Yeah, not all men of course but most guys my age, in their early twenties that is... Uh...

My place is very small I can only invite two people at once because my place is so small and I only own three chairs anyway.



Do you just live in a room? That might be why it's seen as a bit odd.. they probably can't see how sitting in a room drinking is more fun than going out somewhere.

Are there no pubs or places that aren't obnoxiously loud all the time? OR cafes?
I live in Paris, going to a cafe or some place is expensive. Drinks here cost around 9 euros for a cup of tea - I kid you not.



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29 Sep 2011, 11:19 am

18 dollars for a cup of tea? Just a cup of tea, and nothing else?

God, I could feed myself for a week off that.

What about a park? Or a less busy pub?



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29 Sep 2011, 11:27 am

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18 dollars for a cup of tea? Just a cup of tea, and nothing else?

God, I could feed myself for a week off that.

What about a park? Or a less busy pub?


That's 12 USD and life in Europe is expensive.



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29 Sep 2011, 11:30 am

OldFashioned wrote:
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18 dollars for a cup of tea? Just a cup of tea, and nothing else?

God, I could feed myself for a week off that.

What about a park? Or a less busy pub?


That's 12 USD and life in Europe is expensive.


Its 18 New Zealand Dollars.



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29 Sep 2011, 11:36 am

hale_bopp wrote:
OldFashioned wrote:
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18 dollars for a cup of tea? Just a cup of tea, and nothing else?

God, I could feed myself for a week off that.

What about a park? Or a less busy pub?


That's 12 USD and life in Europe is expensive.


Its 18 New Zealand Dollars.


Oh nice, please send some of those golden Kiwis my way! :D



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29 Sep 2011, 12:09 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
OldFashioned wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
I think most men are gross and dumb, too.

But not all of them.

If you want to have someone over for drinks - invite more than one person, that way it will seem less like you're a spider luring her into your web, and more like you just want a friendly chat with friends.

Or you could invite them over not for "drinks" because it is possible that to them that means "I want to get you coma-tised"


Yeah, not all men of course but most guys my age, in their early twenties that is... Uh...

My place is very small I can only invite two people at once because my place is so small and I only own three chairs anyway.


Do you just live in a room? That might be why it's seen as a bit odd.. they probably can't see how sitting in a room drinking is more fun than going out somewhere.

Are there no pubs or places that aren't obnoxiously loud all the time? OR cafes?


To solve your seating problem, you could get another chair. I'm trying to diagram this room in my mind but if it's bigger than a closet it seems like you could squeeze one more person in.

Then again you could buy some cheaper drinks at the grocery store and meet them outside your apartment...

I feel like I'm participating in one of those add-words-to-the-story threads.



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29 Sep 2011, 12:52 pm

OldFashioned wrote:
I only ever try to interact with women but this makes the women think I am either into them or that I am gay or that something must be wrong with me. I only want female friends because I can't stand the company of men. I'm not gay or anything but people tend to make assumptions. Since I am going to art school in a few days I was wondering whether I could get some advice on making friends with some of the girls there and how to make it clear that I am not after their kitty...

On the other hand if I fall in love with another girl there or am attracted to someone how do I make it clear I don't want to be friends but more?

I don't know how to draw the line.

Also why do girls call me a creep when I invite them over to my place for drinks? It's cheaper than going to a bar where a drink costs like 9 bucks when you could have a bottle for that price... Can't I invite someone over to my place to make friends? Do they really need to make assumptions?


NB: Please note that I don't have anything against men, I just don't want them as friends.


I think its because you ONLY hang round with women that they assume that, even your friends.

I know most men are gross and dumb but there are some who aren't, it depends on your view/opinion on what is smart and clean and who is gross and dumb, trust me you will know if you are attracted to the opposite sex or the same sex, just because you don't like most men it doesn't mean your not attracted to men, it just means your a very picky person when it comes to who you want to be with.



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29 Sep 2011, 2:33 pm

Few women would be willing to go and drink with a strange man alone in his room. You will simply have to accept the expense of getting to know women in public spaces until they feel comfortable enough to come home with you.

Many other students at your school will likely be as poor as you are. Figure out where they hang out (surely they're not all paying 9 euros for their cups of tea.) Invite girls to go to museums on their free afternoons, or to walk around the book stalls with you--stuff like that.



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29 Sep 2011, 2:47 pm

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Few women would be willing to go and drink with a strange man alone in his room. You will simply have to accept the expense of getting to know women in public spaces until they feel comfortable enough to come home with you.

Many other students at your school will likely be as poor as you are. Figure out where they hang out (surely they're not all paying 9 euros for their cups of tea.) Invite girls to go to museums on their free afternoons, or to walk around the book stalls with you--stuff like that.


Yeah but she is a woman who is asking women to come round and have a drink, even to me that is odd that they said no to that.



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29 Sep 2011, 3:03 pm

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arielhawksquill wrote:
Few women would be willing to go and drink with a strange man alone in his room. You will simply have to accept the expense of getting to know women in public spaces until they feel comfortable enough to come home with you.

Many other students at your school will likely be as poor as you are. Figure out where they hang out (surely they're not all paying 9 euros for their cups of tea.) Invite girls to go to museums on their free afternoons, or to walk around the book stalls with you--stuff like that.


Yeah but she is a woman who is asking women to come round and have a drink, even to me that is odd that they said no to that.


I'm not a woman.