Trying to act normal

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I am 20 years old, I am starting community college on my 5th week I am all ready getting laughed at and teased by my classmate. My goal was to go through the whole year being normal, but I always f**k things up by doing something wierd without being unconscious about it, such as say something wierd,or do something wierd. In highschool I was always laughed at for being odd, and easily teased. All I want is to be dominant and taken seriously with out being an ass about it, I do not want to be treated like a joke all the time.

What exactly do you mean by wanting to be dominant?

Using the word in it's typical meaning, whenever anyone tries to dominate, they ARE being an ass.

Why try to domonate? Am I getting your message wrong?

Sorry I have trouble wording thins I mean I just want to be listened, and not taken be taken as joke or pushover 90% of the time. sorry for the miswording

I know that feeling well, but I'm afraid that 'normalcy' is something that won't happen on it's own. If you want to be more assertive, there's adult-with-autism social skills available (in the US at least, I'm not well-versed in other countries' programs), or you take a college Communications class if your college offers it.

OOps, I apologise for overreacting to your wording.

I get the impression that everyone gets gets laughed at and/or teased in college: the "normal" and the "weird" alike, but at different frequencies.
If you weren't getting teased at all, I'd worry you weren't getting out enough.

What kind of things do they tease you for? Why do you think you're weird?

I've grown rather numb and indifferent to teasing thru prolonged exposure. (took me a long time)
If someone taunts me,
Either they have advice for my behavior worth following, in which case they help me,
Or they find something serendipitously amusing, and their laughter is a sarcastic compliment,
Or they're just rude sh1theads who aren't worth the trouble of me finishing this senten

(i regret that i sometimes confuse the 1st and 3rd categories , but that's a topic for a different thread.)

Acquiring the ability to present as an NT individual is not something one acquires overnight. It takes a lot of study and practice. You must do a lot of comparisons to identify how your behavior and presentation differs from that of others. You may have to video tape yourself to identify the things about yourself that are making you stand out and you might have to take acting courses to learn how to present as the person you wish to present as (hopefully a better representation of your inner self and not a fake person).

But as there are rewards along this path there are also dangers of embarking on this path. If you try to be someone who you are not, you will ultimately fail as such a facade will be too stressful for you to maintain. If you manage you maintain yourself but conform to certain social standards, and become rather good at practicing these standards, you also mask the things you still have difficulties with and people will have higher expectations of you which you might not be able to meet and they might not be sympathetic towards you when you don't meet them.

i know you want be treated equally but there time when there are bully's that are immature and and only think of them self even in college keep doing what doing don't let them get to you and good luck mate

It seems like your position is already chosen for you. I don't think your going to be able to change those people, they are going to have their opinions and probably stick to them. Wish I could help.

My advice would be to just stick to yourself. What's the use of trying impress and act like idiots that's been picking on you your entire life? Why try to fit in with them anyway? I mean they make fun, shun, and talk down to people that are different than them.

I'm sure you've tried numerous times fitting in the past right? To no avail. I'd just give them the finger and keep to myself.