Do you like friendly NTs?

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The ones who would say "hi" to you and would listen to what you need to say?

I really like them because they are the ones who see through your weirdness whether it be talking or the way you act and they actually listen to what you need to say. I hate it when you try to talk to other NTs and they ignore you or pretend they didn't hear you and they go on talking to other people.

Of course.

But sometimes I can't help wondering what's in it for them. I mean, why would they want to be friends with an Aspie like me?

First of all, if you never told them you're an aspie they probably wouldn't smack the "aspie label" on you. Secondly, some people just love to listen to other people express themselves.

Those are the ones that I like, because they accept me as I am, and I don't have to change for them. I don't have to pretend to be a part of today's mainstream society, around them.

I am equally friendly with everyone until they present a reason Not to be.
Several mental health people have told me this is backward thinking,
but there is a pill for that. I tell them they should take one then.

It depends. If they are nice without demanding more socialisation from me than I can give, then I don't dislike them. There are a handful of people who, if they didn't listen to me or care what I had to say, it would bother me; otherwise I don't really care if people ignore me. More people interested in me = less time for my interests.

Depends on the NT in question.

I do like it when people approach me for socialization because I'm not likely to take the initiative to do it myself. However I don't like when I'm actually doing something and people interrupt me. I mean, if I'm reading it's because I chose to read over doing something else like talking. I hope that makes sense.

I like people who ask lots of questions. I find that conversation is easier in a Question and Answer format than just sort of talking for the sake of talking. They ask questions, and I answer. When they stop asking questions then I know it's my turn to be the asker and then they answer questions. I hate when people start conversations with compliments. I am terrible at giving compliments, so I don't like to receive them out of fear that I will be obligated to give a compliment in return.

It would be splendid if someone would come up and genuinely wishes to get to know me. He or she will have to approach me because I don't really have a clue on how to approach them. I don't care if they are Aspies or NTs. All are welcome as long as they can see through my weirdness and do no attempt to repackage me entirely to suit them.

The big question is where do you find nice friendly people like that?

That picture of the big cat is bothering me. Can it walk?

I haven't found a single one so I can't answer this question. I generally like anyone who is a kind person though. I've found most people I encounter aren't terribly kind to me. Maybe I'm wrong and just assuming things.

why NOT?
i have found a few NTs who were nice to me. exceptionally nice to me. maybe they were just in a good mood those times, maybe they were nice to everybody. i think it is a bit of both. when i was in the army ages ago, i was in an almost all-black ['cept for the wardmaster] hospital unit who blatantly expressed rascist antipathy towards "wh***y." they hated me 'cause i was slow, and also i caused the displacement of another attractive female recruit [i gathered that they utilized her "services" often]. they wouldn't give me the time of day, and they conspired with their hated white wardmaster ["the enemy of my enemy is my friend"] to find a reason to give me the boot. the OR chief, for no obvious reason other than basic human decency, defended me against all of 'em. maybe she hated the wardmaster [in fact i think she saw him as a loathesome cracker], so she saw me in terms of "the enemy of my enemy is my friend" also.

the gist of my verbiage, is that there are nice people all around [including NTs], but their niceness is often totally drowned out by the vast majority of meanies, who can be found in every stripe including [GASP! ] some folk in the AS community. i myself have had my mean [unkind, unfeeling] moments, when i didn't know any better, and sometimes when i did know better, to my lasting shame.
i will take my nice people where i can find 'em.

I'm sure it's because of some quality about you that they may find pleasant. Sometimes you can't really understand why they like you, but all you have to do is know that that like is present and active.

Well... if you ever find a "friendly NT".......................... you would be the best explorer in the world. :B

Of course I do, because well they are friendly.

I take this back. There's one guy who is very friendly to me and I almost want to talk to him. I forgot about him because I hadn't seen him a quite a while. He works at a food court in a store that I frequent. I apparently remind him of an old friend he used to have and he's tried talking to me about video games before but I couldn't speak up. I saw him again today and was quite happy about it. He's the only one though.

I like NT's that are socially friendly and very happy to talk to me, and don't pressure me to do things to fully satisfy them.

I almost always distrust anyone who is friendly for no apparent reason. It's not on purpose, but it always makes me think they're up to something.