Oh my god... Art School starts in a couple of days, help!

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I'm very nervous. I have been to university before and there was freshers week but this is a small art school and I don't know anyone there and there is no thing like Freshers week... How do I approach people and make friends? I only want to talk to girls because I don't like the company of men. How do I socialise? Invite them over for drinks or something? I never know what to talk about when I am with someone, I ask a bunch of questions but I seem to obsess over the same topics because I lack interesting things to say. I'm a boring person I think. I'm no longer (unlike most aspies) an expert at anything, I forgot most about my old passions. And I don't know how to talk about art. And quite honestly the only art I care about is my own. Weird, I know but it's like that, for me art is a mean to create perfection or something pretty damn close to perfection, I am totally OCD...

Any advice would be very appreciated!

Yeah dude invite them for drinks. Or to smoke weed.

I go to art school, it's a great place to meet women. Im pretty much swimmin' in women everyday haha

Weed?

Erm... I'm not a junkie.

Oh what, and I am? Gee, thanks. Thats awfully nice of you.

The term "junkie" is usually used to describe people who do heroin and crack, completley different ball park.

Anything to do with drugs anyone will use the term "junkie" for it even if it is just weed, it's stupid but it isn't a term that you wouldn't read in a dictionary but rather hear on the streets to describe people who use drugs.

Instead of being offended by his lack of intelligence on the word "junkie", just help him and share your opinions on what it was like when you first went to Art school and some tips on the ladies.

What is it exactly that you have to offer these women? You have already made it clear that you are impoverished and uninteresting. You don't know how to discuss your subject of common interest, and you won't even pretend to be interested in THEIR art, either. What's in it for them, if they talk to you?

Well, funny thing is, pretty much every girl I've met at art school, I've met out at the "smoke spot", or I'd meet a girl in class and smoke weed with her afterwards. It's art school, there's a lot of hippie/stoner chicks. And they're usually the most chill.



Truth. The way to talk to girls is to let them talk. Talk about things they love, things they hate, and just listen to them. And ask them questions. It's really not that difficult dude.

Yeah but it's a 8000 Euros a year art school plus 3000 Euros worth of Equipment. It's a classy place.

What do I have to offer? I'm a nice person and I like to listen to people as long as they involve me in the conversation. I'm very very intelligent. I'm a good shot with a sidearm. I am confident maybe a bit too much.

I'm sure smoking weed isn't necessary to make friends. Anyway, just inviting them around to hang out sounds like a good idea to me. People like to talk about themselves, so if you really are a good listener people should warm to you easily! Although it would probably help if you were at least a little bit interested in the other student's art work.

So what I look at it and say "Nice" and then what? I'm not sure how to appreciate other people's art. Art is to be seen, not discussed IMO. It may convey an idea or a concept but it usually can not be put into words.

You're thinking wayyyy too much about it dude. You can't do that. You just need to start talking to them and see where it takes you. You say something, she says something, you say something, she says something. Thats how conversations work. You can't plan out conversations, you need just know how to start them and then just let them happen.

That makes me sound like an idiot.

Not really. Women are attracted to confidence, and if you go up to them and talk to them it shows confidence.

Women love confidence plain and simple. You can be a great looking guy, be intelligent, nice, funny, but if you have no confidence then you won't go far with women ever.