Contributing to group conversations

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This is a problem that me and, a lot of other people here have. Is that I don't really contribute much to group conversations, I'm kinda distant in most group situations. I don't know what to say to this, but if anyone has any advice, please do share.

I've no idea how old you are, but if you're my age or younger, then try to talk to people who are a bit older. They're usually more sympathetic and don't mind when you're quiet. Usually.

I'm 20. The people I know from the cast in a show i'm doing are all my age or older and pretty sympathetic, some of them are nice to me and try to include me in on conversations because they probably understand.

I've read it's because there are more people to interpret at once. I am OK with one person, then as the number of people increase I become increasingly quiet. I don't know if being aware helps in any way.

If I build up 1 to 1 relationships then if I am with the same people in a group they sometimes try and include me. I also cheat and usually have my husband there and he does most talking! You can get lost in the group if you say nothing as they don't see you as part of the group. If you can say anything e.g. ask a question you are still in there.

I have the same processing problems when it comes to group conversations. Perhaps you should stick with meeting people one on one...the friendship ends up being closer and more fufilling in the end, so it's a good thing.