The Emulation of Social Skills

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For those who have "learned" them - It may be so but you still get worn out while NTs get energised ---

That is not quite what I want to discuss in this thread, what I am really eager to discuss is :

Is it not frustrating that a lot of emotions are tied to NT skills?

But mainly for this thread >>>>>>> what would be the Aspie way to work emotions 'in vitro' (A hypothetical world of only Aspies) where the notions tied to each human emotion have been conceived by Aspie psyches? What would be considered socialising?, what notions would be tied to what love is? and the whole spectra of emotions

Affection
Anger
Anguish
Annoyance
Anxiety
Apathy
Arousal
Awe
Boldness
Boredom
Contempt
Contentment
Curiosity
Depression
Desire
Despair
Disappointment
Disgust
Dread
Ecstasy
Embarrassment
Envy
Euphoria
Excitement
Fear
Fearlessness
Frustration
Gratitude
Grief
Guilt
Happiness
Hatred
Hope
Horror
Hostility
Hysteria
Indifference
Interest
Jealousy
Joy
Loathing
Loneliness
Love
Lust
Misery
Panic
Passion
Pity
Pleasure
Pride
Rage
Regret
Remorse
Sadness
Satisfaction
Shame
Shock
Shyness
Sorrow
Suffering
Surprise
Terror
Wonder
Worry





Would all of these emotions even exist(?) or at least the way they do(?) if the Aspie mind where the key stone that conceived them?

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Well I won't speak for others, but I have alexithymia so my emotions seem poorly-defined. Where did this chart come from--I've never seen it before? I also don't agree with the categories. I can tell when I feel "good" and "bad" most of the time by my energy levels. I also have a clear concept of anxiety. Sometimes I'm not sure if I feel good or bad. To further complicate things I have a mood disorder so a lot of the times, it is not clear what is happening with me.

For me all of the happy and excited sections feel the same to me--good.
"nervous" and "antsy" don't seem to belong there as they imply anxiety.

For me all of the sad and angry sections feel about the same--bad. Depending on the meaning I was trying to convey to people I would choose different words. I might say I was sad that someone died or I was angry that something was unjust, but I would feel about the same.

For me I do have a distinct sense of anxiety which ranges from calm to scared.
I have never felt anything inside the tender section except kind(ness) and sympathetic. I thought those would be more personality traits than emotions.

Anyway, all of this has my head spinning. I am not really sure how I feel.

Some of them, e.g. jealousy and loneliness, are completely unknown to me and i can only understand what they mean, but don't feel them.

My actual feelings are straightforward. The opposite of what's called mixed emotions.

Probably they would all exist, but in different proportions. Moreover, i believe they would be felt in exact the same way. However, they would be expressed differently, if at all, if the aspie mind was the key stone.

One of the most profound emotions I've naturally experienced was jealousy. I think it goes to say that more primitive ones are generally experienced more frequently, and since jealousy corresponds with maintaining relationships ( boyfriend girlfriend specifically), it happens a lot in relationships. Other ones I don't think I experience much, like anger. Usually when I get angry I direct it inwards and I have stomach issues. Excitement, on the other hand, I experience quite a lot.

I do a pretty good job emulating with just Happy, Sad, Angry. and Happy does 90% of stituations
I purpusly didn't learn fear face.

Does it happen to anyone else that in a situation of danger you just don't freak out?

E.g. someone has/you have an awful accident and you just go calmly and address the situation while other people (NTs) start screaming and shouting before actually or while addressing the situation but still freaking out.

People sometimes feel I am being insensitive because I don't freak out or show signs of preoccupation, what baffles me is that in some of those times I am actually being the most helpful while they just plain freak out.

Does it?