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I'm not sure what is going on with a friend. Help!

I left my riding hat at her house which is several hours away. She offered to post it. I didn't want to bother her so said I'd wait. This opportunity came up so then tried to see if she could post it within 2 days. I alerted her to the first message on facebook. This was all by text. She said that she had recycled the box and couldn't find anything but it could still go back with a mutual friend who lives locally and who visited recently. I've not heard anything since.

I sent a private message asking about a horse and got no reply.
She has been on facebook multiple times. Yesterday she was responding to the wall comments when we were sharing horse stories. The last thing she said was: How much is she asking for? Have you got any other options? Did you get a picture? I turned the last reply into a message and posted see message. I want her opinion about whether to part loan a horse and have explained everything about it in a paragraph or two.
I have has no reply to either private message. She has updated her picture 45 minutes ago with a new horse picture. I wondered if she does just not see messages so sent her a short polite email but again haven't heard back.

Why would she ignore me like this? When we meet up with both our husbands or even just the 2 of us and her horse she seems friendly enough. I keep thinking she doesn't like me but I told her about AS on a facebook message months ago and she said:
Is it a relief to have a diagnosis? I don't think it'll change the way we are with you (unless you want it to!).We'll always be here for you cos we love you!
My husband keeps reassuring me that she does like me so what is going on?

I must admit to getting her birthday late as she doesn't announce it publicly and I struggle with this, but the messages since have been neutral or positive e.g. the wall post ones she seemed interested and the hat ones neutral. No-one else really posted on facebook about it. It is causing me a lot of stress and I don't know if it would make it awkward socially to ask her and if so how I could say this in the best way. I have a psychologist encouraging me to disclose to people when I am affected by AS if it causes barriers but not sure what I should do to maintain the friendship as she really confuses me as seems to go hot and cold in friendliness.

I have a theory. I use an android phone to check facebook, but it doesn't alert me to mesages for some weird reason. Sometimes I log on to facebook on my pc and realize I have messages waiting for me to read that I was unaware of using my cell phone.

Maybe, she does have one. I got an email back today several days later responding about the horse and my job interview.
It's all a mystery! I can't tell if I have offended someone or if they are busy.

There have been a lot of changes to the Facebook format in the past month or so. I think many people are still figuring out all the changes. I find it a little more difficult with the new format, to remember to check for messages.

So, I think it is maybe just that it takes people awhile to catch up on their e-mail and messages.

With all the changes to facebook, I've noticed that some "postings" get lost & then suddenly show up, 48 or 72 hours after the other person posted it...but I hadn't seen it that whole time.

i have noticed people going cold with me too..........they disappear for months on end
one of my friend didnt call me up for ages
then one day she called up and i realised a baby was crying in the background thats when she told me its her son
who is going to be one year old.

so it can be really weird with people