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02 Dec 2011, 1:15 pm

I'm not willing to stay over and hang at my friends place after a movie makes me disrespectful? I'm not that type person to stay out for so long. I can only take so much before I completely lose it. A movie and then staying over at their house is extremely stressful for me. I need recharge time. Being outside of my home is extremely stressful. And my friend who didn't understands this seems to think I need an "incentive to come over". No, I just want don't like being overloaded.



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02 Dec 2011, 1:53 pm

Well can't you explain this to them.....if they are your friend they should be willing to try and understand how you feel.


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02 Dec 2011, 3:03 pm

No, your friend was being inconsiderate.



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02 Dec 2011, 3:14 pm

I don't stay over at my boyfriend's house. He'd prefer I did, but he understands that I can't cope with being in a "foreign" place for too long. I have to get back home to recharge.



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02 Dec 2011, 4:23 pm

It's not. As a visitor you have the right to leave whenever you feel like it. If the host says otherwise they are not only being disrespectful, but also coercive.



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03 Dec 2011, 2:03 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
Well can't you explain this to them.....if they are your friend they should be willing to try and understand how you feel.


I did explain this, they said they understood, but they cotninued to not understand.



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03 Dec 2011, 2:12 am

If they just expected you to hang out after, you had no way of knowing that if they didn't say.
Maybe suggest to the friend that they say exactly what the invitation entails. Come over for a movie and then an hour of dinner/discussion? That way you know what you're agreeing to and you can prepare for it and they know what you're expecting.



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03 Dec 2011, 3:54 am

cozysweater wrote:
If they just expected you to hang out after, you had no way of knowing that if they didn't say.
Maybe suggest to the friend that they say exactly what the invitation entails. Come over for a movie and then an hour of dinner/discussion? That way you know what you're agreeing to and you can prepare for it and they know what you're expecting.


Good suggestion. I'm a planner. I like to know three days ahead of time what's going on Friday. And I don't like my expectations of that Friday to change.