NTs with obsessions. How do I get one to be quiet about it?

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14 Nov 2011, 10:13 pm

Most NTs my age have obsessions, and I am ABSOLUTELY sure they are NTs.

They post about their obsessions on Facebook and talk about it in real life. It sometimes drives me nuts.

For instance, they usually post or talk about their favorite celebrity, sport, or boyfriends, if they have one. Nobody wants to hear about your obsession; keep it to yourself, please!

How do I get someone obsessed with something to not talk about it?

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15 Nov 2011, 12:18 am

You can't force somebody to stop talking about something that's important to them, especially if the conversation doesn't directly involve you (such as with Facebook or forum posts). Besides, if we autistic people want others to put up with listening about our obsessions, then we have to do the same for them. Like the saying goes: treat others the way you would want to be treated.

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15 Nov 2011, 1:32 am

If there talking directly to you, then you make yourself look really bored, give brief answers. But if there not, especially posting on fb, then u can't really do anything about it.

Your allowed to post your obsessions all over your fb page right? So there allowed to as well.

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30 Nov 2011, 5:42 pm

Just be nice, and if they say your obsession is weird, tell them you hate their too

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30 Nov 2011, 5:45 pm

sunquan8094 wrote:

Well would you like someone to tell you not to talk about your special intrests? sometimes its better to just more or less ignore it......don't read their facebook up-dates, and when talking to them in person try to bring up other things to talk about but most people don't like others to tell them to stop talking about things they like.

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01 Dec 2011, 12:28 am

I have a vague start of an Idea...

FB you cant do anything about, I agree with everyone else, but why not challenge/emplore/coerce/guide/manipulate that person into making that Obsession a part of their real life skillset? Theyre obsessed with some actor? get them into Drama Club, Musician? Get them into Band... at least this way they become an Interesting person, and if they get Famous then you can always crash on their couch when they hit it big!

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01 Dec 2011, 7:54 am

Don't. Just hang out with people whose interests are more aligned with your own. If we all had to reduce ourselves to the interests we had in common with everybody else, the world would be a very dull and monotonous place.

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01 Dec 2011, 12:24 pm

Don't talk to them at all. Or, get someone else who is very chatty to talk over them, and show much more interest in the new chatty person. Then it'll piss off the obsessive one. As for FB, you can ignore individuals on it.

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