Lonely right now. What else is new?

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I am tired of being lonely. Being unemployed and completely unable to make any friends is depressing me. I want friends I want a life. But I just don’t know where to even start. I don’t know how to start a conversation or how to continue a conversation when I have started one. Even if I some how get a conversation started I can’t tell if I am annoying the person I am talking to or not. I really wish there was a class or a book or something that could help me learn these things. I just don’t know what I need to do.

You are in the same boat as me. I read something recently about who a friend is. Simple, it is the first person you want to tell when you have good news. Thinking about this, there are a couple I can name but not very many. I think is common at Wrong Planet tbh

there are WPers who'd want to be your friend. give 'em time to find you.

Thank you both. I never really thought about a friend like that. And I guess if I am lonely I should hang out here more.

I feel lonely alot as well. I'm pretty much at an acceptance with it. I do have a job though, which seems to be my only social gateway for the time being. I'm hoping WP will become another gateway as well.

it works for me

I normally gravitate to groups with similar interests as me (lot of those in college), but I am happy to say I have friends with every group from the stoners to jocks to geeks... As for getting a job, there are several programs to help people with AS and such get jobs, if you look around your area you might even find one near you. That was not meant to be critical by the way, just a heads up. For me when I make new friends, I am fairly upfront about my AS, though at this point for me it's not something I even think about unless it is pointed out. I also tell people to be direct. Most NT's don't like telling people to shut up or such and rely on subtle social hints like looking at a watch that people with AS miss. I tell people to "If I am getting annoying, it is ok to tell me to STFU". Of course, I play it off with humor but I make sure people know it is ok to be direct. That only can solve many social issues. I find that once you explain yourself, people are much much more understanding. See if there are any clubs or groups at your library or such, maybe goto a comic shop if your into that, try out MTG or such. Just remember to be yourself. That does not mean don't care about your surroundings, just that it is ok to be you.