Her bf doesn't understand girls saying ILY?

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Yeah, it's 2am, but my best friend doesn't sleep much, ever, and if she does her phone isn't near her. Make of that what you will. You are probably right.

Now, here is the situation. I havent talked to her in a few days. I'm up because I'm 10 years older than she is I'm 47, she is 37, and I have menopausald symptons. She is a cougar with usually a 25 yo bf there. I have a son in that age group. We don't discuss that stuff she oes, we usually pretend it doesn't happen. This is important to the incident.

I just called her. I said "Hey baby what you doing?" she said "Nothing darlin what about you?" I said not much, took my son - I named him in this - to the doctor about that lump in his ground. She said whatd they do? I said took blood. We talked about normal stuff. I said Listen hon, I got 800 in food stamps, and I'm stocked up. Lemme take you to the grocery store tomorrow and get you about 100 worth of food. She said ok, call me around 1 or so, I'll be free then. I said ok baby, I love you bye She said I love you too, bye"

Well, thats a normal girl conversation here. baby and honey dont mean romantic things. It's just what we call our friends. We say I love you to show we do care. She and I always say I love you before we hand up, just as does every memmber of my family to people they care about.

About a minute later her bf calls back. WHO WAS ALKING TO MY WOMAN??? he yelled. I could hear her screaming at him in the background. I said I was

He said No you wasnt they was talking about meeting and she said she loved him and she called him a good name. I said that was me. She is my friend. We call each other good names and we way I love you before we hang up. I'm taking her to the grocery store!

He called us lesbians and he's going home. I talked to her again after it happened and she's laughing her butt off about him being that way, not upset with me at all, she has a lot of boyfriends, but come on guys, I want to hear your take on this.

Girls telling each other "I love you" on the phone? Is this normal in any other part of the world? If it helps, her bf was from California.

Frances

My take on this? You have $800 in food stamps! $800 of Gummy Bears will solve any problem. Or fancy chocolate, if you'd rather.

The crazy jealous guy? Sounds horrible. Keep away. I guess jealously is something I don't understand much, but it seem like jealous people feel that they own other people, which is a short road to being emotionaly abusive.

NO GUMMY ANYTHING IS NASTY!! !! !! !! We usually buy in bulk. We are the nutty survivalist people with 200 lbs in flour and oh look, we need to get about 40 more cause we used that last month.

Do you know what gummy anything would do to the inside of my mouth? It would start a coup from my brain and that would filter down to the resistance fighters on my tongue and they would coordinate with my esophagust to make me retch. I used to be ok with gummy bears, I liked how they felt. Till I saw gummy worms.

Frances

All gum-based candies are disgusting ... eww jelly beans, gum drops , licorice(sp?) ... Im so starting a food issues thread.

OliveOilMom...

are you really Skinny? Like Popeye's girlfriend?

If the bf is 25ish, he's likely basically just an overgrown kid. He'll probably misunderstand all kinds of things.

You and your friend didnt do anything wrong. Her boyfriend is just an overprotective jealous fool, of which there is no shortage. If it wasn't that particular issue, he would have found something else to overreact too.

When people call each other nicknames, like "honey," or "dear," or "sweetie," or whatever, they are just nicknames. They're terms of endearment. They don't mean anything. I think your friend's boyfriend is too young to understand that. Obviously, he misconstrued the whole thing. He has nothing to be jealous of. I think it's nice that you and your friend care about each other that much. To have those kind of friends is quite rare, especially these days.

I love jelly beans. I lost a filling though and it's fixed with that drug store stuff so I can't eat them.

Frances

I'm normal size. My maiden last name is the same as a popular brand of olive oil. Hence the user name

Frances

Should've gone for "Extra Virgin Mom"

;)

I would have but I didn't name any of them Jesus

I just talked to her. We are officially changing out phrase from "I love you" to "I really want to slap you in the face with a large mouth freshwater bass".

Frances

I'm not likely to say "I love you" first, but I will return it to whoever does (as long as I really do love them). Sometimes it's misused and people just say it like it's a greeting/farewell term.

Well, in my family we always say that to people in our family, and my kids even say it to each other. Sometimes they hate each other but they still say it.

Once, my oldest daughter was in a screaming fight with my oldest son on the phone. I heard her end of it. It went like this;

"I am not a whore! You had a baby with a crackhead! ........ Really??? Well at least I don't sell weed and pills!! !......... Oh no you did not! Well your baby mama slept with Cody and everybody knows it..... While you were at work, if work is what you want to call it...... Yeah? Well you just try it! Come on you stupid p****! Ok, love you too, bye."

But I only say it to people I do care about, and its always a nice reminder that no matter how much you screamed at someone, you do love them.

Frances

You said she has a lot of boyfriends, that's probably not helping his jealousy. And maybe it's because I'm from California too, but if I heard my gf calling someone "baby" and "darlin" and "honey" then end the conversation with "I love you," I'd wanna know just what the hell was going on too. I'm sure it's normal other places, but where I'm from at least, it's not.