What R The Solutions

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I know on this website we talk a lot about the differences between us and NTs. I also know we talk a lot about missing social ques and body language. as well as a lot written on the lonely state of an aspie but what are the solutions. Where are the answers to the terrible loneliness that is most aspies life? I know there are all kinds of therapy if got the money, but what if you don't because your soul source of income is ssi and main means of medical is free insurance given to you because you qualify for ssi. Is there hope is there away out of the dark and into the light. I know it has help me to have a site like this but I need more because I want it all. I want have what the NTs take for granted relationships friends and romantic. I also need know that there is hope because if this isolation is going to be the next 50 or so more years I do not want them. I go to local support groups but there are none and I need something more structured than that. I do not think such a thing exists. I know that I am at my wits in and want so much to get better and if someone told of place anywhere where they would take me broke and still help me then I would be on the next greyhound there because I know as I am right this moment I the best I am but I also know that I can be better than what I am today. I want that chance more than I want one more breath. If I could get the right help I do anything I had to get there and get it. I just need to know I currently live Cali but it does not where it is I will go and get it.

It took a couple of steps for me to come out of social isolation back then.

The first one was unfolding myself on the internets, where communicating came much more easily. This showed me where I stood with myself and others. I played out (and partly fumbled) a long-distance relationship or two, which didn't feel like practice at the time but eased me into the psychologies of romance, regardless. I liked to debate a lot, a form of socializing that's subject- instead of person-orientated. These discussions made me realize that despite being in a small minority in the way I view the world, popular opinions are rarely very well founded, and the willingness to be different is mostly a virtue.

That made a real difference. Obliviousness to social norms is a handicap when you're trying to fit in, but it's a big advantage for the dedicated individualist. I flowed from dark RPGs to goth forums to the real-life goth scene, and from there into counterculture in general... into a whole world of people who celebrate what makes them different, and tend to appreciate a fresh perspective now and then.

I'd always taken myself for a sober geeky type until then, but it turned out attention for detail is a great boon in art and aesthetics. The DIY styling of visually extravagant party cultures came gradually but naturally to me, and while you can call it superficial if you like, getting three minutes of the benefit of the doubt from people who think they really want to get to know you because you look cool helps a lot when conversational skills are lacking.

Real-life romance was a learn-by-doing thing, but fun as learning processes go. I would call myself successful in love and sex, these days.

All of that may not be for you, but it demonstrates that ways to get out and have 'everything' do exist. You just have to stop feeling like you're shunted into a dirty little corner of the world for not fitting in, and realize that you have just as much right to your dreams and personality as anyone else.