At what point is oversharing, oversharing?

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14 Jul 2016, 9:31 pm

When you have friends you feel close to (or acquaintances that could turn into more!), is it frowned upon or "unstable" to confide in all of them? Or should rough days and negative emotions be dealt with on your own, and only shared with one or two people?


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14 Jul 2016, 9:46 pm

Unless you're close friends with somebody, you really shouldn't share most of your secrets with people.

However...if you feel good doing that, then I suppose it's okay. If' it's okay with them. But I'd be cautious with people I don't know. Most people are okay--but some might try to take advantage of you because you would be perceived as being naïve.

Other people might find that you are "sharing too much," depending on what you're "sharing."



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14 Jul 2016, 9:57 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Unless you're close friends with somebody, you really shouldn't share most of your secrets with people.

However...if you feel good doing that, then I suppose it's okay. If' it's okay with them. But I'd be cautious with people I don't know. Most people are okay--but some might try to take advantage of you because you would be perceived as being naïve.

Other people might find that you are "sharing too much," depending on what you're "sharing."


Hm... I wouldn't call anything I share a "secret," just how I'm feeling after a rough day or period of my life. Sometimes it's just hard to judge whether or not you're making somebody uncomfortable, if that makes sense? I'm not used to being vulnerable for the sake of relationships.


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15 Jul 2016, 5:46 am

It depends on the person. You have to gauge whether they want to hear about your "rough day." If the person you're talking to tries to change the subject, I would take that as a cue to stop talking about your "rough day."

What's relevant, also, is whether or not you've listened to the other person talking about their "rough day." If you had to hear the other person's sob story, then you, morally, the other person should listen to yours as well.



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18 Jul 2016, 4:04 pm

im so sharing about what im like that i tell people in my guild in WoW the exact reason why im going afk "be right back, im cleaning my room" "be right back, im eating lunch" and stuff, the amount of times ive been told thats too much information, they don't need to know that.

i think the point where its too far, is when its possibly really personal, like bodily health or sexual things but other then that....


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21 Jul 2016, 6:01 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
It depends on the person. You have to gauge whether they want to hear about your "rough day." If the person you're talking to tries to change the subject, I would take that as a cue to stop talking about your "rough day."

What's relevant, also, is whether or not you've listened to the other person talking about their "rough day." If you had to hear the other person's sob story, then you, morally, the other person should listen to yours as well.


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