My friend (who's an Aspie too) is too clingy.

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I'm not really against hugs or anything, but she's a bit too awkward. She hugs me in a way that's just not the way you would hug a friend, tries to lean her head on my shoulder, and calls me "love". I'm not homophobic, actually I'm the farthest thing from being homophobic, but it just doesn't look right. I've been accused of cheating because of this. I told her so many times it's awkward, but she didn't really understand. What should I do?

I would say to hunch your shoulders and say a firm, "No" everytime she does it.

I would suggest you ask her if she would mind only doing it when no one else is around. That would be a compromise. It's a difficult situation.

Aspies/Autistic people have unique ways of doing things. Touch affects us all differently. Most of us can't behave quiet like people who aren't Autistic in the way we touch others.

Most of us don't like being touched lightly. It could be she is getting so close because she likes a firm hug. Yet at the same time of course it's perfectly understandable why you don't like her doing it. It's embarrassing and people are misunderstanding it.