Is it ok to think of him as a friend?

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I knew a guy all through elementary, but three years ago, back in middle school, he died in a car crash. We weren't that close, but he was just one of those people whp was nice to everyone... I never really hung out with him or spent time with him, but i really respected him. Im stuck now wondering, if its ok to call him my friend and think of him as a friend, even though i don't really know what he thought of me... Is it disrespectful to call him my friend, because before i didn't really think of him as a friend, he was just a really nice person, but now... I don't know... You never really recognize how good a person is until their gone i guess. Is it ok to call him my friend, because he was a really good kind person?

Yes its okay. I knew someone when I was younger just recently when he died. I always consider him as my friend.

Sounds like he was a friend to all. It also simplifies conversation, especially for people who don't know the details. There was a scout in my troop who died, and I'd only talked to him a few times, but the whole troop showed up at his wake and saluted the casket on the way out, me included.

I handled the same situation.

A friend of mine a year younger than mine, who I went to the same school as, died months after I left that school as a passenger of a fatal car crash, at age 15. He sat at the same lunch table as me. We were, I guess, just acquaintances, and we only talked to each other a few times, but still I saw his face for at least 40 minutes per week day.

It hurt to accept it, but I did.

There's no problem with calling that person your friend, as long as you aren't trying to express that you two were close when you were not.