3 simples words I wish it was okay to say

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There are three simples words that once said could help so many of us. Six if you put them together...


I am lonely. With those three words anyone and everyone would have a better understanding of you. No one should every feel this way.


I don't understand. Say these words and people will teach you.

But those words always ends. No one really gets you feel alone. "everyone has a friend"

You don't understand your dumb it's plan and simple.

Words said when we are young that always helped turned into words that burn and laugh.

What happens when you say you are lonely??

I wish it was okay to say:

"Not too good" when someone asks how I am doing sometimes.

Why do I need to lie and say, I'm fine when I'm not fine.
I wish people wouldn't ask me how I am. Just say "hi" and I can say "hi" back.

What are you talking? would be my favorite thing to say.

I'm sorry you're lonely. It feels awful.

They tell me "no one is alone, everyone has at least one friend" I can tell you with 100% truth I have no friends.i do not go out besides work and shopping.

I Always try to make friends but they always ditch me ASAP.

I have tried aspie groups but someone I am in the middle of ages. Everyone there is to young or to old.

Hi Endinglignt,
I agree with you - no one should be lonely.
You're in your early 20's? There are lots of users on WP around your age.

What country do you live in?

Going on mid 20s. I live on Colorado.

Even people with friends and spouses can be lonely. Just because we have them, doesn't mean they are there for us all the time.

Endinglignt,

How old were you when you were diagnosed?

Do you have interests that you spend time working on or studying? Like computer games, particular times in history, drawing, literature, etc? What are your favorite things to do?

I was 15 at the time.

I enjoy reading and learning about myths. Book wise I go for fantasy/demons in the modern day.i am a classic geek from anime to video games.

If you remember back at any time when you were younger, did you ever have a friend or friends?
Do you remember how you met and what you did together?


Most people on the spectrum feel some amount of loneliness - some more than others, and life changes; there are times they are happy. Even with other people around, sometimes it's possible to feel lonely because of isolation - a feeling that no one understands you.


I had posted this link in another thread for you....it has some advice for making friends:
http://improveyoursocialskills.com/

I had school friends. They liked coping my home work. But no... I never really had a friend

For me to engage in real conversation, the other person has to have some level of interest in things I like and things I like to do.


Have you ever been to a comic book convention? Or to the movies if something you really want to see is playing?
If you met someone who enjoyed the same things that you do, then it would be easier to get into a conversation and make friends.


If you are able to take some form of transportation, you might have a better chance of meeting friends if you go to places where people who share your interests in anime. There are many users on Wrong Planet who are into anime and fantasy books. There are some threads on this forum for meet-ups too.

too old for what? when you describe other people as being "too old," that is unkind at best.
in my aspie group i am the oldest, and i am still treated like a sentient human being and not a doddering old fool to be marginalized.

I do go to cons but I never make it past "con friends"


I am sorry auntblabby. What I meant when I have gone to aspie meet ups the the next age under me is 9 years old and down and the the youngest older then me was 35. I.ethe father of the 9 year old.