I've gone too far obsessing about learning social skills...

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Aspies are consistent and honest most of the time, but I have become the very reason why "most of the time" is the key phrase. I have become an inconsistent monster. I thought that by bettering my social skills and diversifying my views of the world, and that by broadening my interest range, I would attract more friends as well as improve the chances of reaching my ultimate goal of finding the special girl who would be my soulmate. I proved to be doing the opposite of what I was supposed to do though. All that did was enabled me to bounce back and forth between hanging around low-life negative influences and being isolated from society completely. I am currently in the isolated from society phase, and now that I realize where I'm stuck, if I try to put myself back out into the world, I will somehow only attract the negative influences who will use me as a doormat to get what they want. But if I stay here forever, I will be locked into the pain and sorrow of eternal darkness. I should have made the decision years ago to just be myself and use patience to let what I had going for myself happen, but now I have twisted my own mind to the point of failure. I have proven the fact that without a girlfriend with a strong will of her own, I cannot succeed in my other areas of life. I need to act now and find those positive influences, but there seems to be nowhere to go. If you've made it this far through my ocean of ramblings, I beg you to point me in the right direction of what to do. I have concluded that I cannot figure out what to do about my inconsistencies on my own.

Also, sorry if this is in the wrong section of the forum.

i'd be happy to support you as a fellow member of the wp community.

you would get more helpful feedback if you provided specifics.

Sorry to sound redundant, but what kind of specifics are needed specifically?

This, here ^, is fallacy. Try; Without succeeding in other areas of my life, I cannot attract a girlfriend with a strong will of her own.


This, here ^, is the high road for everyone. Start at this by actively being: Techie, Programmer, Musician, Songwriter, Producer.

It's through competencies that self confidence emerges. Life is work, not romance. Get to work and forget about the low-lives. (Sometimes romance happens, but never in isolation. Work exposes our best selves to others, despite ourselves.)

examples.

of when you felt inconsistent or felt that you had to compromise your principles